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<blockquote data-quote="helpmeplease" data-source="post: 38868" data-attributes="member: 3662"><p>Thanks for all the advice everyone. I'm going to read and try to remember as much as I can.</p><p></p><p>She has been in the hospital 4 times already. Our insurance company won't pay for more than 3 days even though the doctors disagree with her being discharged. We can't afford a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but if I need to protect the little ones she will have to move in with her dad and he can finish raising her. At least she can't beat him up or hurt any little people while she's living with him. I think their "system" in PA is much better than here in AL anyway, so maybe that would be a good thing. I told her that if she hits, swears, threatens or breaks anything again that she will be on the first plane to PA. I explained that I don't want to do this, but if I have to do so in order to save the rest of the family then I have no choice.</p><p></p><p>The police say that the only thing they can do is arrest her if she assaults me and I have an obvious injury. Vandalizing the house is something she can get away with cause she lives here. If she gets arrested over and over again, maybe the state will take custody of her and put her in a program but I'm not sure exactly how that works.</p><p></p><p>I agree that building a positive relationship is important. We try to bond and spend time together, but every other word out of her mouth is a cuss word or some mean commment about how stupid, fat, ugly, mean I am. Even when I do something nice like offer to take her to DQ for ice cream, it's not good enough. She'll throw a fit because I'm not taking her to Cold Stone Creamery. Not that we do ice cream often these days but that is an example of how she never allows me to do anything nice for her. We try to go out and do things together, but no matter what we do, it's never enough or the right thing. It's so hard to even have a conversation with her anymore. I hate it.</p><p></p><p>Oh, and about missing the bus. I do let her and have let he miss the bus. She's about to fail 7th grade if she misses one more day of school. We've been to juvenile court over her absences and during that meeting I cried like a baby to them and told them everything. They said they would look into local programs to help me and so far I haven't heard back other than one person who called to tell me to get her into counseling, duh!!!</p><p></p><p>Anywyay, my husband is at the point where he can't even look at her or talk to her so he ignores her every night when he comes home. I know that is bad, but he is so angry with her. She has completely destroyed this house that he works so hard to pay for. She swears at him and calls him names too. It's bad.</p><p></p><p>So, I guess for now we will do the best we can to get thru the next month and hopefully some time away at her dads for the summer will do her some good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpmeplease, post: 38868, member: 3662"] Thanks for all the advice everyone. I'm going to read and try to remember as much as I can. She has been in the hospital 4 times already. Our insurance company won't pay for more than 3 days even though the doctors disagree with her being discharged. We can't afford a Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but if I need to protect the little ones she will have to move in with her dad and he can finish raising her. At least she can't beat him up or hurt any little people while she's living with him. I think their "system" in PA is much better than here in AL anyway, so maybe that would be a good thing. I told her that if she hits, swears, threatens or breaks anything again that she will be on the first plane to PA. I explained that I don't want to do this, but if I have to do so in order to save the rest of the family then I have no choice. The police say that the only thing they can do is arrest her if she assaults me and I have an obvious injury. Vandalizing the house is something she can get away with cause she lives here. If she gets arrested over and over again, maybe the state will take custody of her and put her in a program but I'm not sure exactly how that works. I agree that building a positive relationship is important. We try to bond and spend time together, but every other word out of her mouth is a cuss word or some mean commment about how stupid, fat, ugly, mean I am. Even when I do something nice like offer to take her to DQ for ice cream, it's not good enough. She'll throw a fit because I'm not taking her to Cold Stone Creamery. Not that we do ice cream often these days but that is an example of how she never allows me to do anything nice for her. We try to go out and do things together, but no matter what we do, it's never enough or the right thing. It's so hard to even have a conversation with her anymore. I hate it. Oh, and about missing the bus. I do let her and have let he miss the bus. She's about to fail 7th grade if she misses one more day of school. We've been to juvenile court over her absences and during that meeting I cried like a baby to them and told them everything. They said they would look into local programs to help me and so far I haven't heard back other than one person who called to tell me to get her into counseling, duh!!! Anywyay, my husband is at the point where he can't even look at her or talk to her so he ignores her every night when he comes home. I know that is bad, but he is so angry with her. She has completely destroyed this house that he works so hard to pay for. She swears at him and calls him names too. It's bad. So, I guess for now we will do the best we can to get thru the next month and hopefully some time away at her dads for the summer will do her some good. [/QUOTE]
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