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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 748199" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes you do. Like all of us you have the strength of your higher power. Rest. This is one step at a time. We are so very glad you are here. </p><p></p><p>I think first you need to have support. I am going to 12 step groups. AA or NA will immediately give you community and you will no longer be alone with this. That is what I do and what I would do.</p><p></p><p>The others here have provided good ideas. Especially I like the idea of the domestic violence crisis center. </p><p></p><p>There should be free attorneys at Superior Court that could help you do the eviction. In my County every morning at 8 am I can go to speak to an attorney, to help me with forms or to get a sense of what I need to do.</p><p></p><p>But the first thing, is to know that the people in your house have become predators. <em>But you are not prey.</em> You have a loving and tender heart and you deserve respect and safety and care. </p><p></p><p>For right now I would avoid contact with them and not engage. Really. There is nothing to say. You have already said everything and so have they. It's just that they choose not to hear or care.</p><p></p><p>Changing the situation and your life has nothing to do with them. What they hear. What they understand. What they do. Is not on you. It's them. </p><p></p><p>You will do what it takes to get them out. The law will do it. I would no longer engage with them. It is abusive and it takes your energy. As they continue to degrade and mistreat you, it's tearing you down more. Please avoid these interactions.</p><p></p><p>I would focus on getting support, making distance from these abusers and I would focus on the legal process. In any community there are free resources for legal help. Elder Abuse and Domestic Violence (Trauma Center) is where I would start.</p><p></p><p>The idea of moving out temporarily to a domestic violence shelter (while continuing to make payments on the house so that you don't lose it) might be something to think about. Let the sherrif get them out.</p><p></p><p>I am very sorry you find yourself in this situation. You don't deserve it. And you can make it stop.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 748199, member: 18958"] Yes you do. Like all of us you have the strength of your higher power. Rest. This is one step at a time. We are so very glad you are here. I think first you need to have support. I am going to 12 step groups. AA or NA will immediately give you community and you will no longer be alone with this. That is what I do and what I would do. The others here have provided good ideas. Especially I like the idea of the domestic violence crisis center. There should be free attorneys at Superior Court that could help you do the eviction. In my County every morning at 8 am I can go to speak to an attorney, to help me with forms or to get a sense of what I need to do. But the first thing, is to know that the people in your house have become predators. [I]But you are not prey.[/I] You have a loving and tender heart and you deserve respect and safety and care. For right now I would avoid contact with them and not engage. Really. There is nothing to say. You have already said everything and so have they. It's just that they choose not to hear or care. Changing the situation and your life has nothing to do with them. What they hear. What they understand. What they do. Is not on you. It's them. You will do what it takes to get them out. The law will do it. I would no longer engage with them. It is abusive and it takes your energy. As they continue to degrade and mistreat you, it's tearing you down more. Please avoid these interactions. I would focus on getting support, making distance from these abusers and I would focus on the legal process. In any community there are free resources for legal help. Elder Abuse and Domestic Violence (Trauma Center) is where I would start. The idea of moving out temporarily to a domestic violence shelter (while continuing to make payments on the house so that you don't lose it) might be something to think about. Let the sherrif get them out. I am very sorry you find yourself in this situation. You don't deserve it. And you can make it stop. [/QUOTE]
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