How and when did you know something was going on with your child

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Ramona, Jul 29, 2008.

  1. Ramona

    Ramona New Member

    My daughter Iris is 3. Here is a little back ground on her behavior.

    She started hitting me when she was 8 months old. That sounds like it might be typical baby behaivior but I knew right away something was different about it. She has been violent ever since. Hitting, biting, hair pulling, scratching, pinching, punching, and kicking. For the most part is all directed at me. I am greatful for that because I wouln't want her hurting other kids. However, I often feel beat up.

    She is defiant and oppositional. She argues about everything and rarely just cooperates. She has frequent potty related regressions. She throws loud angry unstopable tantrums multiple times a day.

    I often feel like she is angry with me or that she is out to get me. I feel like that sounds ridiculous but I am just being honest.

    I have not had her evaluated although I have talked about her at length with my therapist.

    I'm curious as to when you knew there was a problem vs. just having an extremly diffucult child.
  2. Calgon_Take_Me_Away

    Calgon_Take_Me_Away New Member

    Mine no longer fall into this age range, but I'll answer.

    My grandpa told me when difficult child was 2 that "something wasn't right with him". difficult child was diagnosed in Feb 2004 .... grandpa died in Oct 2004. So at least grandpa knew he was right.
  3. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    I knew about 3 months before my child was even born that there was something amiss. She beat me up from the inside out!

    Definitely get her evaluated.
  4. Calgon_Take_Me_Away

    Calgon_Take_Me_Away New Member

    lol That was my easy child 1 ~ I remember calling my mom crying because her kicks hurt.

    My difficult child was so mellow in utero and as a baby. I had NST's because I rarely felt difficult child move.
  5. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I *would* get her evaluated. She is an atypical child. I"ve raised five and this would have me at a developmental pediatrician or a neuropsychologist. Most babies are cuddly, fairly happy, and defiant at times (but easy to coax into smiles). She is only three and not trying to ruin your life--something is up with her that is beyond her control. Please find her good help.
  6. Ramona

    Ramona New Member

    Thanks you guys. Where do I start? Should I begin with her regular doctor? We are go to the doctor only when your sick type people so he has only met with us a few times in the past couple of years.

    Or do I need to find some kind of specialist.
  7. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    With Miss KT, we started with her regular doctor, and went on from there.
  8. barbie

    barbie MOM of 3

    Ask yourself one question, is she this way all the time or just around you? If shes like that all the time, then chances are she is having some issue, but most pediatricians dont like to diagnose they'll refer you out to someone else. If you have a PPO insurance consider yourself lucky and just call them to ask for a psychiatric or behav evaluation. If you have a Mcaid HMO then you have to go through their mental health portion for benefits, which ***** mostly because they are clinics. Eric can't do clinics cause if he is around more than like 4-5 people at a time he gets aggressive.

    Listen to your inner mommy voice, if its telling you there is something wrong, there is, if it says shes just high strung, just listen.