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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 301502"><p>I'm so sorry.</p><p>Would part time work be available and could you do it physically?</p><p>It might be a nice distraction and very rewarding as well.</p><p>It seems very normal to miss your husband, difficulties and all. There was a close bond, love and companionship. </p><p>Have you talked with your therapist about this? Is grief counseling available to you? What about some sort of group support?</p><p>I do think slowly, but surely getting out a little is a great idea.</p><p>Think of any good female friends you might have and call them. Just talk a little. If appropriate, invite them over for coffee (for example) one day. Try not to talk excessively about husband or your difficult children. Force yourself to limit those discussions, although don't eliminate them if you feel you would like to talk about them. However, take the other people into consideration...</p><p>Other people and discussions about a variety of things...can be very soothing. </p><p>Also...consider making a decision to "take back" some of the decision making in your life. Wonderful to have support...not wonderful if they are fulfilling roles that you should be doing. Learn to moderate. Your brain is telling you something. Good for you and your brain. It's not a problem.</p><p>So, accept graciously support when you don't feel well or when KT is over the top. Speak up and you take control when you feel better and/or when you feel this is well with-i your abilities.</p><p>If KT is out of the home now and a return date is on the horizon, make a plan to handle things differently...including caretakers who might be overstepping boundaries.</p><p>If you feel you should be working (pt??) put this in the back of your mind...mull it over. It is your right to do this....you have a good head on your shoulders, always have and always will.</p><p> </p><p>by the way...Think about buying yourself a teddy bear!</p><p> </p><p>(Hugs)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 301502"] I'm so sorry. Would part time work be available and could you do it physically? It might be a nice distraction and very rewarding as well. It seems very normal to miss your husband, difficulties and all. There was a close bond, love and companionship. Have you talked with your therapist about this? Is grief counseling available to you? What about some sort of group support? I do think slowly, but surely getting out a little is a great idea. Think of any good female friends you might have and call them. Just talk a little. If appropriate, invite them over for coffee (for example) one day. Try not to talk excessively about husband or your difficult children. Force yourself to limit those discussions, although don't eliminate them if you feel you would like to talk about them. However, take the other people into consideration... Other people and discussions about a variety of things...can be very soothing. Also...consider making a decision to "take back" some of the decision making in your life. Wonderful to have support...not wonderful if they are fulfilling roles that you should be doing. Learn to moderate. Your brain is telling you something. Good for you and your brain. It's not a problem. So, accept graciously support when you don't feel well or when KT is over the top. Speak up and you take control when you feel better and/or when you feel this is well with-i your abilities. If KT is out of the home now and a return date is on the horizon, make a plan to handle things differently...including caretakers who might be overstepping boundaries. If you feel you should be working (pt??) put this in the back of your mind...mull it over. It is your right to do this....you have a good head on your shoulders, always have and always will. by the way...Think about buying yourself a teddy bear! (Hugs) [/QUOTE]
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