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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 301733" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Linda - </p><p> </p><p>What medium do you like to work in? </p><p> </p><p>Acrylics, colored pencils, oils? Need to know. </p><p> </p><p>I paint for frustration too. What did you paint? Have you thought about taking a small wall in your house and doing a mural like Terry2 does? I did a dog for Dudes room when he was having nightmares. I did it when he was about 7 - it's still there. Oddest thing - it LOOKS a LOT like the dog I adopted years later. Was thinking maybe that would be something that you could just leave and work on as you felt able to. </p><p> </p><p>I have some paints and stuff that are going to waste here, because I don't have time to use them. If they're what you use and you want them just say the word. Um....word would be - yes. Or send. Or Word. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Another thing I was thinking of was that you need a tween. Hear me out. Sometimes I really do have a good thought. Your family while helpful, stepping in to help to you may mean loosing your independence. Once you turn things over to them it's a step gone in your life. You're not ready to loose that step yet because it's so multi-dimensional. I think loosing that you said would mean loosing the children, the house and if you ask me - your memories. Right now to move? It would mean loosing the visuals you have of you and husband. It's not much, but it is what you have. You can stand in the kitchen and see you, him and the kids. Vividly. Eventually you could do that anywhere, but right now? You need that, there. Also the fact that you have waited so long to be able to have things done the way you have always wished they could be with husband there? Yeah that would be hard to walk away from too. So right this minute leaving is not a viable option. But on the other hand staying seems hard as well. You are grief stricken, and struggle daily with your health. We all have good days and bad. Just with your days things seem to be pointed out a lot more because you have special needs children. I would think that if anything - everyone would be bending over backwards to accomodate YOU - a special needs Mom who wants to stay in the lives of these children who have been so damaged. I'll never quite understand the system, it's really not for the BEST interest of the child is it? It's for the best interest of the wallet. Wallet doesn't have a heart, doesn't have a care in the world. Doesn't have a tear when a child cries or acts out. But Linda does. I don't know who they think they're kidding. Where is the person that stands up for Linda? What's the difference between three years ago and now? Are you MIRACUOUSLY better? Did lightning bolts fly out of your nose and cure you? Why are they charging YOU for KT's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stay? This is ludicrous. You need a tween. </p><p> </p><p>You need someone to come and move furniture from A to B. Big deal. Right? Well it is if you are disabled. If you call your family? It becomes a big deal. If you call the caseworker it could be perceived as more impairment - althought they may be cool about it. So again - I'm thinking tween. The tween is someone who would just be there to help - like a personal assistant. Times are so SO tough right now. Could you interview someone for three or two days a week to coordinate things for you like finding people through churches and ministriies or high schools or volunteers that could come and move furniture or even Craigslist that would make $10 to do 30 minutes of work? And how about grocery lists and undesirable errands? Like a helping hands kind of person? Someone that would just be there for YOU. A go be TWEEN. </p><p> </p><p>Maybe I'm way off base, but someone who is knowledgeable about services and helpful, kind, honest? Someone who could help KT and would be a friend? </p><p> </p><p>Just a thought - And hugs....I do not think you are anything less than extraordinary. Quite an amazing woman actually! I'm also ready for a new avatar tomato girl! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 301733, member: 4964"] Linda - What medium do you like to work in? Acrylics, colored pencils, oils? Need to know. I paint for frustration too. What did you paint? Have you thought about taking a small wall in your house and doing a mural like Terry2 does? I did a dog for Dudes room when he was having nightmares. I did it when he was about 7 - it's still there. Oddest thing - it LOOKS a LOT like the dog I adopted years later. Was thinking maybe that would be something that you could just leave and work on as you felt able to. I have some paints and stuff that are going to waste here, because I don't have time to use them. If they're what you use and you want them just say the word. Um....word would be - yes. Or send. Or Word. :winking: Another thing I was thinking of was that you need a tween. Hear me out. Sometimes I really do have a good thought. Your family while helpful, stepping in to help to you may mean loosing your independence. Once you turn things over to them it's a step gone in your life. You're not ready to loose that step yet because it's so multi-dimensional. I think loosing that you said would mean loosing the children, the house and if you ask me - your memories. Right now to move? It would mean loosing the visuals you have of you and husband. It's not much, but it is what you have. You can stand in the kitchen and see you, him and the kids. Vividly. Eventually you could do that anywhere, but right now? You need that, there. Also the fact that you have waited so long to be able to have things done the way you have always wished they could be with husband there? Yeah that would be hard to walk away from too. So right this minute leaving is not a viable option. But on the other hand staying seems hard as well. You are grief stricken, and struggle daily with your health. We all have good days and bad. Just with your days things seem to be pointed out a lot more because you have special needs children. I would think that if anything - everyone would be bending over backwards to accomodate YOU - a special needs Mom who wants to stay in the lives of these children who have been so damaged. I'll never quite understand the system, it's really not for the BEST interest of the child is it? It's for the best interest of the wallet. Wallet doesn't have a heart, doesn't have a care in the world. Doesn't have a tear when a child cries or acts out. But Linda does. I don't know who they think they're kidding. Where is the person that stands up for Linda? What's the difference between three years ago and now? Are you MIRACUOUSLY better? Did lightning bolts fly out of your nose and cure you? Why are they charging YOU for KT's Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stay? This is ludicrous. You need a tween. You need someone to come and move furniture from A to B. Big deal. Right? Well it is if you are disabled. If you call your family? It becomes a big deal. If you call the caseworker it could be perceived as more impairment - althought they may be cool about it. So again - I'm thinking tween. The tween is someone who would just be there to help - like a personal assistant. Times are so SO tough right now. Could you interview someone for three or two days a week to coordinate things for you like finding people through churches and ministriies or high schools or volunteers that could come and move furniture or even Craigslist that would make $10 to do 30 minutes of work? And how about grocery lists and undesirable errands? Like a helping hands kind of person? Someone that would just be there for YOU. A go be TWEEN. Maybe I'm way off base, but someone who is knowledgeable about services and helpful, kind, honest? Someone who could help KT and would be a friend? Just a thought - And hugs....I do not think you are anything less than extraordinary. Quite an amazing woman actually! I'm also ready for a new avatar tomato girl! :winking: Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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