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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 509716" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>((((HUGS))))</p><p></p><p>First of all, how did she respond to your call? I would probably have done and said the same thing you did, but hopefully waited until I was calm and was able to allow her to respond.</p><p></p><p>I can see how her actions may be viewed as judgmental, but put yourself in her shoes for a minute. Is it possible that she is truly concerned for the well being of her son. If you did not explain "out of control", she's thinking <strong>really</strong> out of control since she knows you and difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I'm in a similar situation but in reverse (I'm in your neighbor's position) DD1 is not allowed to go to her BFF's house. Why? BFF's mom has a live in boyfriend who is pretty much a carbon copy of my FDH. Even though I do not approve, BFF's mom is entitled to be in a relationship with anyone she chooses. HOWEVER that does not mean that I have to allow my child to be subjected to this sorry excuse for a man. I'm not sitting in judgement of the mom, I am protecting my child.</p><p></p><p>I'd have a heart to heart with this neighbor friend - over a cup of tea maybe. Try not to be defensive. Explain what is or isn't different and allow her to digest/respond.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 509716, member: 11965"] ((((HUGS)))) First of all, how did she respond to your call? I would probably have done and said the same thing you did, but hopefully waited until I was calm and was able to allow her to respond. I can see how her actions may be viewed as judgmental, but put yourself in her shoes for a minute. Is it possible that she is truly concerned for the well being of her son. If you did not explain "out of control", she's thinking [B]really[/B] out of control since she knows you and difficult child. I'm in a similar situation but in reverse (I'm in your neighbor's position) DD1 is not allowed to go to her BFF's house. Why? BFF's mom has a live in boyfriend who is pretty much a carbon copy of my FDH. Even though I do not approve, BFF's mom is entitled to be in a relationship with anyone she chooses. HOWEVER that does not mean that I have to allow my child to be subjected to this sorry excuse for a man. I'm not sitting in judgement of the mom, I am protecting my child. I'd have a heart to heart with this neighbor friend - over a cup of tea maybe. Try not to be defensive. Explain what is or isn't different and allow her to digest/respond. [/QUOTE]
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