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How do I go about getting my son to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 467983" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am PROUD of you!!!!!!! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/choir.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":choir:" title="choir :choir:" data-shortname=":choir:" /> I know this was HARD and that the freaking out will not be easy. If you haven't looked up alanon meetings in your area, tonight or tomorrow morning would be a great time to do that - and tomorrow would be a great day to go to a meeting. </p><p></p><p>As for derisive police, if someone IS derisive of you, report them to the chief of police. I don't care how big the town/city is, there is NO excuse for derision of a parent who is forcing a child to leave because they are stealing from her.</p><p></p><p>Throwing his bong away was NOT stealing. In some states they are not legal to have (not that it stops someone) and the contents sure are not legal in most areas. If it isn't legal to have it, you can't be held responsible for stealing it.</p><p></p><p>It IS illegal to throw somethng that doesn't belong to you away. Was it valuable in a financial sense? I would probably tell son that you will press charges for the item he threw away if he is in your home with-o permission, if ANY of your belonging disappear, if he harrasses you in any way, and if he is abusive to you. Chances are he won't care, or will threaten to press charges because you "stole" his bond and the other drugs. Let him try. It will amuse the police most likely. At least it would here anyway!</p><p></p><p>Go to walmart and/or radio shack and find some door and window alarms. They are fairly inexpensive. Make sure EVERY door and window has one. If your windows are the type that lift up, get some dowel rods or broomstick handles and cut them so taht they fit upright on top of the window so that the window can't be opened. MANY window locks are very easy to open from the outside. Be sure you have a dowel or broomstick handle that fits in the track of the sliding door if you have one. These will help protect your home. If you have renter's insurance, ask the agent to do a security audit and give you advice to keep your home secure. You can get an audit from a security company, but it mostly will be about selling you a security system. Without the added expense of difficult child in the home you might be able to afford a security system, and it might be an idea, but it wouldn't hurt to check out less expensive alternatives.</p><p></p><p>I know you may freak out soon. He is your son and you want to know that he is safe, not living on the streets, healthy, and happy. Throwing him out may feel unnatural to you at some point, and even just wrong. But you did the right thing and this is in his best interest in the long run - and in YOURS!</p><p></p><p>Be especially NICE to yourself in the coming days/weeks. You deserve it. ((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 467983, member: 1233"] I am PROUD of you!!!!!!! :choir: I know this was HARD and that the freaking out will not be easy. If you haven't looked up alanon meetings in your area, tonight or tomorrow morning would be a great time to do that - and tomorrow would be a great day to go to a meeting. As for derisive police, if someone IS derisive of you, report them to the chief of police. I don't care how big the town/city is, there is NO excuse for derision of a parent who is forcing a child to leave because they are stealing from her. Throwing his bong away was NOT stealing. In some states they are not legal to have (not that it stops someone) and the contents sure are not legal in most areas. If it isn't legal to have it, you can't be held responsible for stealing it. It IS illegal to throw somethng that doesn't belong to you away. Was it valuable in a financial sense? I would probably tell son that you will press charges for the item he threw away if he is in your home with-o permission, if ANY of your belonging disappear, if he harrasses you in any way, and if he is abusive to you. Chances are he won't care, or will threaten to press charges because you "stole" his bond and the other drugs. Let him try. It will amuse the police most likely. At least it would here anyway! Go to walmart and/or radio shack and find some door and window alarms. They are fairly inexpensive. Make sure EVERY door and window has one. If your windows are the type that lift up, get some dowel rods or broomstick handles and cut them so taht they fit upright on top of the window so that the window can't be opened. MANY window locks are very easy to open from the outside. Be sure you have a dowel or broomstick handle that fits in the track of the sliding door if you have one. These will help protect your home. If you have renter's insurance, ask the agent to do a security audit and give you advice to keep your home secure. You can get an audit from a security company, but it mostly will be about selling you a security system. Without the added expense of difficult child in the home you might be able to afford a security system, and it might be an idea, but it wouldn't hurt to check out less expensive alternatives. I know you may freak out soon. He is your son and you want to know that he is safe, not living on the streets, healthy, and happy. Throwing him out may feel unnatural to you at some point, and even just wrong. But you did the right thing and this is in his best interest in the long run - and in YOURS! Be especially NICE to yourself in the coming days/weeks. You deserve it. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) [/QUOTE]
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