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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 101176" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>He's wanting a reaction, so whatever you do - DON'T REACT!</p><p></p><p>I know it's easier said than done, all you can do is keep telling yourself he's just putting on an act. An act not only for your benefit, but a different act for everyone else.</p><p></p><p>Frankly, he sounds bored and trying to amuse himself by playing mind games. And it takes two or more to play.</p><p></p><p>If he KNOWS you are likely to be taping him and he can't stop you (because he doesn't know where, or how) then he will be more careful about what he says to you. Win-win.</p><p>The only problem with this - if he finds out you are taping him, even THIS is a reaction to him and he will then accuse you of being paranoid and spying on him.</p><p></p><p>Me - I'd be leaving home for a holiday somewhere, for a few weeks. Don't say a word about wanting to get away from him. Instead, invent a conference somewhere, walk out happily leaving your darling men to look after themselves. be light, be happy.</p><p></p><p>And while you're no longer there for him to get amusement from, wait for husband to discover his own version of purgatory. Or maybe, for difficult child to find another source of amusement.</p><p></p><p>I'm not so sure about BiPolar (BP) - frankly, this sounds psychotic. And this isn't necessarily "run from the axe-wielding murderer," because most psychotic people are law-abiding (because they know that breaking the laws can get your liberty taken away). We have laws with deterrents purely for people like this, for situations when a person's conscience is flawed or lacking.</p><p></p><p>Once you stop being his source of amusement, he will turn his attentions elsewhere. Or when he leaves home.</p><p></p><p>On the hidden tape recorder topic, I've been wanting to check out iPod microphones. Since a lot of people seem to have iPods permanently attached, they tend to slip under the radar and not be seen because of their very obviousness. Hidden in plain sight. If you've got the ear buds draped round your neck also, then he mightn't even notice that the iPod happens to be wired for pick-up at the moment, and not merely output.</p><p></p><p>You can also talk to various groups online as well as in person, who specialist in spyware. They could also advise you on the legality of what you are doing. I'm fairly sure there are still places which allow you to record minors on your own turf, unless you are recording indecent stuff such as upskirting, for example. Do check it out.</p><p></p><p>But don't react. Tell him you're bored by these antics. You have better things to concern yourself with, such as what's for dinner, or the price of fish. Or what colour you're going to paint his room when he turns 18 and you can change the locks.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 101176, member: 1991"] He's wanting a reaction, so whatever you do - DON'T REACT! I know it's easier said than done, all you can do is keep telling yourself he's just putting on an act. An act not only for your benefit, but a different act for everyone else. Frankly, he sounds bored and trying to amuse himself by playing mind games. And it takes two or more to play. If he KNOWS you are likely to be taping him and he can't stop you (because he doesn't know where, or how) then he will be more careful about what he says to you. Win-win. The only problem with this - if he finds out you are taping him, even THIS is a reaction to him and he will then accuse you of being paranoid and spying on him. Me - I'd be leaving home for a holiday somewhere, for a few weeks. Don't say a word about wanting to get away from him. Instead, invent a conference somewhere, walk out happily leaving your darling men to look after themselves. be light, be happy. And while you're no longer there for him to get amusement from, wait for husband to discover his own version of purgatory. Or maybe, for difficult child to find another source of amusement. I'm not so sure about BiPolar (BP) - frankly, this sounds psychotic. And this isn't necessarily "run from the axe-wielding murderer," because most psychotic people are law-abiding (because they know that breaking the laws can get your liberty taken away). We have laws with deterrents purely for people like this, for situations when a person's conscience is flawed or lacking. Once you stop being his source of amusement, he will turn his attentions elsewhere. Or when he leaves home. On the hidden tape recorder topic, I've been wanting to check out iPod microphones. Since a lot of people seem to have iPods permanently attached, they tend to slip under the radar and not be seen because of their very obviousness. Hidden in plain sight. If you've got the ear buds draped round your neck also, then he mightn't even notice that the iPod happens to be wired for pick-up at the moment, and not merely output. You can also talk to various groups online as well as in person, who specialist in spyware. They could also advise you on the legality of what you are doing. I'm fairly sure there are still places which allow you to record minors on your own turf, unless you are recording indecent stuff such as upskirting, for example. Do check it out. But don't react. Tell him you're bored by these antics. You have better things to concern yourself with, such as what's for dinner, or the price of fish. Or what colour you're going to paint his room when he turns 18 and you can change the locks. Marg [/QUOTE]
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