Dear Nomad, it is heart wrenching the issues we face with our children and they have NO appreciation for the things we allow ourselves to do for them such as paying her cell and medical bills, am sorry you are going through this. 
2 and a half years, such a long time of not seeing her, understand those days of missing them but as you so clearly stated your missing the old daughter, the what could of been and the reality of what is before you today. You have such wisdom that most fail to see and keep those blinders on not accepting the truth for what it is.
Absolutely your health is of utmost importance with stress being a silent killer. I pray that, with the help of your therapist, you are able to reduce your stress and improve your health. I love seeing your ways of self care, your doing everything possible to keep living your life. You should be so proud, even when an issue came about that hurt you so deeply could not even talk about it, you did. Instead of holding on to that pain you let it go. 
