OK. I am still stuck on "discipline". We have read The Explosive Child and try to employ those practicies. A huge challenge for us is to not engage and TRex knows this. She will push every button... from calling us names, to trying to turn chairs over into the walls making holes, to hitting (pinching, spitting, hair pulling). We cannot walk away from her... she follows. And I am not ready to just lock myself in a room and let her destroy the house. So we end up restraining... which I know is not the most helpful thing to do as it just escalates more. We are sooo trying to control ourselves better. After it is over, she is fine and truly apologetic. So I have never thought calling the police would be really helpful. Now, granted, it is not like this every day. We will go a week or so with a sweet great child (very controlled and happy) and then something will trigger her (right now a trip my husband and I have coming up) and then we will have a bad day or two. How do you handle that degree of "misbehavior". Because that is definately in our Bucket A! How do you balance helping her understand that the behavior is totally unacceptable without letting her always get her way and feeling like she is running the house? I would appreciate any thoughts.