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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 536685" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>For me the hardest part was learning to pull the punishment part out of discipline. For some reason I use to think of discipline as parents set rules then hand out punishments that fit the violation. This worked fine with my son but when tried the same thing with the girls it seemed like they were spending most of their time in time out or I was dealing with Angel retaliating against the punishment. She would rack up 15 more infractions for 1 attempt at punishment.</p><p></p><p>Eventually you run out of things to take away- a couple years ago her room consisted of a mattress with-bedding and a bunch of stuffed animals with-plexiglass window and half a door (the cops broke the other half when she barricaded self in room) if I would have enforced everything by her brother's criteria she would have accumulated several years of grounding and never seen tv or a computer game.</p><p></p><p>My girls there was some mental illness & developmental issues that were really causing the behavior problems and I needed to look to source of problems not the behaviors. The doctors tried all 3 of the medications in your signature on Angel for behaviors and all of them made the behaviors worse, all kids different but might want prescribing doctor to put those under scrutiny of hurting or helping?</p><p></p><p>I finally decided that if child was going thru chemo and threw up afterward I wouldn't punish them, or if child was blind beating them wouldn't make them see. No I don't just let them run like wild animals though to an outsider it might appear that way. With mine when they exhibit the level of behaviors you described their medications needed adjustment; a few times it got severe enough those adjustments were done inpatient. There have also been times when Angel just needed more supervision then I could possibly give her by myself at home.</p><p></p><p>Sorry I'm chatty and got kinda off subject again; what I do now rather then let them violate rule and take away privileges, is make them do what I want to get what they want. I figured the world kind of works that way if want to get paid at end of week have to earn your check, they don't just hand you money and say come back next week and earn it. Hopefully something in here helps</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 536685, member: 7170"] For me the hardest part was learning to pull the punishment part out of discipline. For some reason I use to think of discipline as parents set rules then hand out punishments that fit the violation. This worked fine with my son but when tried the same thing with the girls it seemed like they were spending most of their time in time out or I was dealing with Angel retaliating against the punishment. She would rack up 15 more infractions for 1 attempt at punishment. Eventually you run out of things to take away- a couple years ago her room consisted of a mattress with-bedding and a bunch of stuffed animals with-plexiglass window and half a door (the cops broke the other half when she barricaded self in room) if I would have enforced everything by her brother's criteria she would have accumulated several years of grounding and never seen tv or a computer game. My girls there was some mental illness & developmental issues that were really causing the behavior problems and I needed to look to source of problems not the behaviors. The doctors tried all 3 of the medications in your signature on Angel for behaviors and all of them made the behaviors worse, all kids different but might want prescribing doctor to put those under scrutiny of hurting or helping? I finally decided that if child was going thru chemo and threw up afterward I wouldn't punish them, or if child was blind beating them wouldn't make them see. No I don't just let them run like wild animals though to an outsider it might appear that way. With mine when they exhibit the level of behaviors you described their medications needed adjustment; a few times it got severe enough those adjustments were done inpatient. There have also been times when Angel just needed more supervision then I could possibly give her by myself at home. Sorry I'm chatty and got kinda off subject again; what I do now rather then let them violate rule and take away privileges, is make them do what I want to get what they want. I figured the world kind of works that way if want to get paid at end of week have to earn your check, they don't just hand you money and say come back next week and earn it. Hopefully something in here helps [/QUOTE]
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