I'm going to read that other forgiveness thread. I forgot about it. I'm wondering if "forgiveness" really means "letting go, letting God, moving on." I don't think I can forgive, but I think I can move on.
My family has a history of malicious divide and conquer behavior (my mom used to complain that my grandma favored her brother) and I know she threw it at my grandma's face a lot because I was close to my grandma and she'd tell me. I also think there may be undiagnosed mental illness there. Nobody but me ever wanted help. My sister had anorexia and she's still very underweight--at 46 she already has osteoporosis in spite of eating what-she-calls healthy and exercising. Her fifteen year old seems anorexic--wears a Size 12 girls and runs three miles a day, then five or so more after school in track and tells me she's fat. She does eat though. Keep the comments coming. I'm all ears and thanks.