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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 73553" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My mom left me out willingly. She was very sharp until about a year before her death, and she was the type to have her affairs ready FAR in advance. I believe not telling me about her first brain tumor was because didn't want me there. She figured I'd come. She even told my dad, her ex, whom she treated like dirt too. She finally told me about it three years later. In the end, she died of brain cancer. I was the last one to ever speak to her. She wasn't herself, but even then, when I said "I love you" she didn't say it back. She just said "I know." Two hours later, she was gone.</p><p>I am not convinced she was consumed with hatred for me. I think, even worse (in my mind) she went on happily without me. My sibs say she never talked about me. It is ME who is consumed with hurt and anger. Just me. Funny thing is, I sort of moved on before she died. Afterwards, when I realized that she had truly given me the last "Haha" from the grave (lack of even acknowledgement, I guess--I was never called for the reading of the will) it hit me like a ton of bricks and I've been bitter and sad and hurt ever since. And I'm also angry at my sibs, perhaps unfairly, but, if it had been me in my mother's favor, and if she'd been picking on my brother or sister, I would have stepped in boldly and said, "You can't treat them this way and have a relationship with me." I used to stick up for both of my siblings all the time. THAT also makes me angry. What a waste of time that was. At the same time, I know this is harmful to ME, not them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 73553, member: 1550"] My mom left me out willingly. She was very sharp until about a year before her death, and she was the type to have her affairs ready FAR in advance. I believe not telling me about her first brain tumor was because didn't want me there. She figured I'd come. She even told my dad, her ex, whom she treated like dirt too. She finally told me about it three years later. In the end, she died of brain cancer. I was the last one to ever speak to her. She wasn't herself, but even then, when I said "I love you" she didn't say it back. She just said "I know." Two hours later, she was gone. I am not convinced she was consumed with hatred for me. I think, even worse (in my mind) she went on happily without me. My sibs say she never talked about me. It is ME who is consumed with hurt and anger. Just me. Funny thing is, I sort of moved on before she died. Afterwards, when I realized that she had truly given me the last "Haha" from the grave (lack of even acknowledgement, I guess--I was never called for the reading of the will) it hit me like a ton of bricks and I've been bitter and sad and hurt ever since. And I'm also angry at my sibs, perhaps unfairly, but, if it had been me in my mother's favor, and if she'd been picking on my brother or sister, I would have stepped in boldly and said, "You can't treat them this way and have a relationship with me." I used to stick up for both of my siblings all the time. THAT also makes me angry. What a waste of time that was. At the same time, I know this is harmful to ME, not them. [/QUOTE]
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