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How do you get past the day to day discouragement and live your life?
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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 399502" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>When my son was about four, I realized he was going to be just like me and I cried. Life is not easy for the difficult child and certainly no cake for the difficult child's parents, either. It's hard to maintain perspective. It isn't going to be forever; it just seems like it sometimes. </p><p></p><p>When I feel sorry for myself, I ask myself "Where's the piece of paper? That guarantee that I was going to have a happy life and happy children? Didn't I get one at birth? Oh. That's right. No papers. No guarantees." And then I remind myself that I live in the 21st century in the free world and that's better than kings lived a thousand years ago and I'm living a darned sight better than the majority of human beings in the world today. Sometimes I grit my teeth and tell myself over and over, "He didn't ask to be this way. No one would have picked this brain chemistry. This wasn't a choice he got to make." I also try to focus on the things that are good about difficult child. </p><p></p><p>Another thing I do sometimes is tell myself, it's not getting through the next 8 years -- that's too much to think about. But can I get through a week? A day? An hour? I can put up with almost anything for an hour, if there's enough oxygen in the room. So I'll just make it through the hour. After that, I convince myself I can make it another hour. After all, I just did it, right? I can put up with almost anything for an hour! And so on. </p><p></p><p>I'm trying to say there are dozens, maybe hundreds of ways, to get you through the day. This board is a great resource for finding new ones when your own don't work anymore. You're not alone and there are a lot of good things about your life, too. Good luck to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 399502, member: 2960"] When my son was about four, I realized he was going to be just like me and I cried. Life is not easy for the difficult child and certainly no cake for the difficult child's parents, either. It's hard to maintain perspective. It isn't going to be forever; it just seems like it sometimes. When I feel sorry for myself, I ask myself "Where's the piece of paper? That guarantee that I was going to have a happy life and happy children? Didn't I get one at birth? Oh. That's right. No papers. No guarantees." And then I remind myself that I live in the 21st century in the free world and that's better than kings lived a thousand years ago and I'm living a darned sight better than the majority of human beings in the world today. Sometimes I grit my teeth and tell myself over and over, "He didn't ask to be this way. No one would have picked this brain chemistry. This wasn't a choice he got to make." I also try to focus on the things that are good about difficult child. Another thing I do sometimes is tell myself, it's not getting through the next 8 years -- that's too much to think about. But can I get through a week? A day? An hour? I can put up with almost anything for an hour, if there's enough oxygen in the room. So I'll just make it through the hour. After that, I convince myself I can make it another hour. After all, I just did it, right? I can put up with almost anything for an hour! And so on. I'm trying to say there are dozens, maybe hundreds of ways, to get you through the day. This board is a great resource for finding new ones when your own don't work anymore. You're not alone and there are a lot of good things about your life, too. Good luck to you! [/QUOTE]
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