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How do you get past the day to day discouragement and live your life?
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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 399549"><p>There have been many days were I am just so...I guess depressed would be the best word for it, over the life that I thought I was going to have as a parent, and the life as a parent that I actually live. And they are so vastly different. It's okay to cry and grieve for what you thought you were going to have. I have had MANY days where I felt like an absolute failure as a mom. But, when I started taking difficult child to see the therapist when he was 9, he told me that I was not a failure because I was willing to admit that my son had some problems that needed to be worked on, husband and I were willing to face them, and we have taken every step that we have ben asked to take in order to deal with them and get difficult child the help that he needed and still needs today. Does knowing that make it any easier? Some days yes, some days no. It's okay to have a bad day or two. I know that I had quite a few where the best I could manage for the day was getting the kids off to school and then becoming one with the couch watching "The Tudors" until it was time to get them from the bus stop. </p><p> </p><p>Do you have any hobbies? Try picking them up again if you have lost interest in them. It gives you something else to focus on. You and your husband can take a night and go out for dinner, without the kids if you can get a sitter to stay with them. It's necessary to get away from them for a while, even if it's just to run out to get coffee or something like that. A few minutes to be able to breath can do wonders. If you need to vent, then vent. I have done it many times, always to safe people who, even if they don't understand what we are going through, are supportive of us as parents. It helps to know that you have friends who you can trust. </p><p> </p><p>Pam</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 399549"] There have been many days were I am just so...I guess depressed would be the best word for it, over the life that I thought I was going to have as a parent, and the life as a parent that I actually live. And they are so vastly different. It's okay to cry and grieve for what you thought you were going to have. I have had MANY days where I felt like an absolute failure as a mom. But, when I started taking difficult child to see the therapist when he was 9, he told me that I was not a failure because I was willing to admit that my son had some problems that needed to be worked on, husband and I were willing to face them, and we have taken every step that we have ben asked to take in order to deal with them and get difficult child the help that he needed and still needs today. Does knowing that make it any easier? Some days yes, some days no. It's okay to have a bad day or two. I know that I had quite a few where the best I could manage for the day was getting the kids off to school and then becoming one with the couch watching "The Tudors" until it was time to get them from the bus stop. Do you have any hobbies? Try picking them up again if you have lost interest in them. It gives you something else to focus on. You and your husband can take a night and go out for dinner, without the kids if you can get a sitter to stay with them. It's necessary to get away from them for a while, even if it's just to run out to get coffee or something like that. A few minutes to be able to breath can do wonders. If you need to vent, then vent. I have done it many times, always to safe people who, even if they don't understand what we are going through, are supportive of us as parents. It helps to know that you have friends who you can trust. Pam [/QUOTE]
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