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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 502149"><p>You know WP - I say to myself over and over and over again "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything"</p><p></p><p>Because we did - we looked the other way (didn't stand for something) and we lowered the bar (fall for anything) Behavior that would have rang alarm bells 3 years ago were just now just average weekends at the Sig household. No destruction, no theft, no violence and really very little discord. Why? Because we wouldn't give in to the discord (rise to the bait, stand up for ourselves, take a stand PERIOD) and the behavior hadn't escalated to to theft or violence or destruction YET. </p><p></p><p>Don't come home for a few days - text "Hey Sweetie are you ok? ", sleep until 2:00pm, go out a 4pm, return at 1:00 am repeat - "um could you let me know if you will be home for dinner?" Watching my 48 yo old H with the bad back shovel the 100' driveway during the workday while difficult child sleeps upstairs....*crickets* </p><p></p><p>It's no wonder that difficult child had a prepared list of conditions by which he would agree to live at home... HE WAS IN CHARGE</p><p></p><p>take back the control!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 502149"] You know WP - I say to myself over and over and over again "If you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything" Because we did - we looked the other way (didn't stand for something) and we lowered the bar (fall for anything) Behavior that would have rang alarm bells 3 years ago were just now just average weekends at the Sig household. No destruction, no theft, no violence and really very little discord. Why? Because we wouldn't give in to the discord (rise to the bait, stand up for ourselves, take a stand PERIOD) and the behavior hadn't escalated to to theft or violence or destruction YET. Don't come home for a few days - text "Hey Sweetie are you ok? ", sleep until 2:00pm, go out a 4pm, return at 1:00 am repeat - "um could you let me know if you will be home for dinner?" Watching my 48 yo old H with the bad back shovel the 100' driveway during the workday while difficult child sleeps upstairs....*crickets* It's no wonder that difficult child had a prepared list of conditions by which he would agree to live at home... HE WAS IN CHARGE take back the control! [/QUOTE]
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