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How do you get your partner to go along with CPS & calming down?
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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 182503"><p>I used to have the same problem. I met my husband when my difficult child was 8, she is now 17. In the beginning I explained to him that my daughter was very difficult and that he would have to have more patience with her than he would with the average child. It took time for him to get used to her. I used to feel as though I was stuck in the middle and that I had to constantly monitor them when they were together. I always felt I had to defend my daughter, I guess thats also because my husband is not my daughter's biological father. It is much better now. For the most part him and I both pick our battles. Not everything is worth the fight!!! We are human, both of us do lose it from time to time. The irony of it is, now my husband is more patient than me. He is usually playing the "good cop" and I am the "bad cop". </p><p></p><p>I think that parents have a natural tendency to want to be in control. It is not logical for parents of difficult child's to expect to be able to control everything. It is hard to let that go. As children we were taught to obey and respect our elders, so we in turn expect our children to do the same. When raising a difficult child sometimes we must be more flexible and figure out a not so traditional way to discipline our kids. </p><p></p><p>Keep on trying, he'll get it someday. Hang in there.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 182503"] I used to have the same problem. I met my husband when my difficult child was 8, she is now 17. In the beginning I explained to him that my daughter was very difficult and that he would have to have more patience with her than he would with the average child. It took time for him to get used to her. I used to feel as though I was stuck in the middle and that I had to constantly monitor them when they were together. I always felt I had to defend my daughter, I guess thats also because my husband is not my daughter's biological father. It is much better now. For the most part him and I both pick our battles. Not everything is worth the fight!!! We are human, both of us do lose it from time to time. The irony of it is, now my husband is more patient than me. He is usually playing the "good cop" and I am the "bad cop". I think that parents have a natural tendency to want to be in control. It is not logical for parents of difficult child's to expect to be able to control everything. It is hard to let that go. As children we were taught to obey and respect our elders, so we in turn expect our children to do the same. When raising a difficult child sometimes we must be more flexible and figure out a not so traditional way to discipline our kids. Keep on trying, he'll get it someday. Hang in there.:) [/QUOTE]
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