klmno
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difficult child told me the other night that there is a boy at school carrying around a bottle that says Vodka on it, has a clear liquid in it and is trying to sell it to the other kids. He wouldn't tell me who it was. But, he wanted his Cash for his allowance- normally, I keep the money and buy him what is approved by me for his amount of allowance. I spoke to him about the need to report this (the Vodka issue), but he wasn't to thrilled over that so I told him to spend a little time thinking about doing what was right.
Today, I had to pick him up from school and the principal came out to talk to me about the email she accidently sent me- (maybe I'll post about that on Special Education form). Anyway, I told her about what difficult child said- boy; I don't know who, might be going around school (middle school) trying to sell what he claims to be alcohol. I felt bad in a way because difficult child really didn't want me to report this- so I asked principal not to question difficult child because I don't want him to quit confiding in me.
This evening, difficult child told me who it was, the boy is in 7th grade and that the boy had tried to get difficult child to buy alcohol from him and that he had seen other "buy" transpire and that it was happening in the school building. Ok, I tell difficult child that I think we should report this to school. difficult child gets upset and says "no"- that this is a "good kid". I say, no, not if he's doing that. difficult child says but "that's the same thing people say about me because of everything wrong that I have done". Ok, difficult child, then maybe he isn't all bad, but, he needs some intervention to help him if he's doing this. difficult child is still upset.
Do I tell the principal and bargain on her not questioning difficult child? I already told her that I can't guarantee the truthfulness of it, but difficult child has been opening up and been honest with me for several months- the best I can tell.
Advice? I am concerned about why he had to have his allowance money in cash and given to him- at the same time this subject came up.
Today, I had to pick him up from school and the principal came out to talk to me about the email she accidently sent me- (maybe I'll post about that on Special Education form). Anyway, I told her about what difficult child said- boy; I don't know who, might be going around school (middle school) trying to sell what he claims to be alcohol. I felt bad in a way because difficult child really didn't want me to report this- so I asked principal not to question difficult child because I don't want him to quit confiding in me.
This evening, difficult child told me who it was, the boy is in 7th grade and that the boy had tried to get difficult child to buy alcohol from him and that he had seen other "buy" transpire and that it was happening in the school building. Ok, I tell difficult child that I think we should report this to school. difficult child gets upset and says "no"- that this is a "good kid". I say, no, not if he's doing that. difficult child says but "that's the same thing people say about me because of everything wrong that I have done". Ok, difficult child, then maybe he isn't all bad, but, he needs some intervention to help him if he's doing this. difficult child is still upset.
Do I tell the principal and bargain on her not questioning difficult child? I already told her that I can't guarantee the truthfulness of it, but difficult child has been opening up and been honest with me for several months- the best I can tell.
Advice? I am concerned about why he had to have his allowance money in cash and given to him- at the same time this subject came up.