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How do you keep feeling love after they cross the line?
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 419409" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>MWM, I really do take the points you make. If you have to think of the safety of another child or of animals, that is indeed a real and pressing consideration. Regardless of why a child is dangerous, he/she is still (for the moment) dangerous. I do not have a "position" on this, exactly, and even if I did it would not change the reality of the people having to deal with this situation.</p><p>It is just that... and I am sure most people here would agree... violence in a child is something that does need to be contained with some measure of understanding and maturity. Not just "punished". I am sure that there are situations in which a child who is violent can be helped to deal with his/her emotions in ways that are not destructive. I do not imagine that it would be easy to turn such a child around.</p><p>And I also hear, and accept, that there are situations in which, sadly, that cannot happen. I feel that an adopted child whose adoptive parents give up on him because of his disruptive and destructive behaviour is going in all probability to become even more disruptive and destructive. It may also be that, as many people here feel, there can be no other solution than to send the child away.</p><p>Everyone in this dynamic is suffering and I do not have any easy answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 419409, member: 11227"] MWM, I really do take the points you make. If you have to think of the safety of another child or of animals, that is indeed a real and pressing consideration. Regardless of why a child is dangerous, he/she is still (for the moment) dangerous. I do not have a "position" on this, exactly, and even if I did it would not change the reality of the people having to deal with this situation. It is just that... and I am sure most people here would agree... violence in a child is something that does need to be contained with some measure of understanding and maturity. Not just "punished". I am sure that there are situations in which a child who is violent can be helped to deal with his/her emotions in ways that are not destructive. I do not imagine that it would be easy to turn such a child around. And I also hear, and accept, that there are situations in which, sadly, that cannot happen. I feel that an adopted child whose adoptive parents give up on him because of his disruptive and destructive behaviour is going in all probability to become even more disruptive and destructive. It may also be that, as many people here feel, there can be no other solution than to send the child away. Everyone in this dynamic is suffering and I do not have any easy answers. [/QUOTE]
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