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How do you keep feeling love after they cross the line?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 419432" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Malika, I have no doubt that the child we didn't keep in our house is either no better or no worse. He could not get any worse. He did get intensive therapy after he left us but they have to let him go at eighteen.</p><p></p><p>Had husband and I kept in touch with this child, I don't think Sonic or Jumper would have EVER either gotten over it or forgiven us. We had to save the ones we could. We were given false information about the child that we adopted, mostly because he was so good at hiding how disturbed he was. We have never been sorry about our decision and, frankly, we were not pressured to keep parenting him. I often advise prospective adoptive parents to adopt an infant. Our infant adoptions have gone GREAT. But it is so hard to make up for their early years when they lacked care and often you can't do it. And, yes, they can get worse, whether or not you keep them at home with you. We have a calm, peaceful house now...I still feel guilty that we did not know the degree of damage that R. caused to the other children. Only God Himself could have made my two youngest children so wonderful and resilient. </p><p></p><p>It is not easy. You are a very kindhearted person, Malika. I think your son is a lucky boy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 419432, member: 1550"] Malika, I have no doubt that the child we didn't keep in our house is either no better or no worse. He could not get any worse. He did get intensive therapy after he left us but they have to let him go at eighteen. Had husband and I kept in touch with this child, I don't think Sonic or Jumper would have EVER either gotten over it or forgiven us. We had to save the ones we could. We were given false information about the child that we adopted, mostly because he was so good at hiding how disturbed he was. We have never been sorry about our decision and, frankly, we were not pressured to keep parenting him. I often advise prospective adoptive parents to adopt an infant. Our infant adoptions have gone GREAT. But it is so hard to make up for their early years when they lacked care and often you can't do it. And, yes, they can get worse, whether or not you keep them at home with you. We have a calm, peaceful house now...I still feel guilty that we did not know the degree of damage that R. caused to the other children. Only God Himself could have made my two youngest children so wonderful and resilient. It is not easy. You are a very kindhearted person, Malika. I think your son is a lucky boy. [/QUOTE]
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