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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 596128" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think the exercise idea is EXCELLENT. I'm very high strung and have suffered from anxiety disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) all of my life. Loud noise bothers me, be it crying, screaming or a loud concert (I never did like loud concerts). Nothing helps me like hard exercise. Running is great, but any workout is good.</p><p></p><p>Probably the least productive way to handle it is with anger, as if the child is deliberately making your life difficult. The children can't help it. They have brain differences and are emotionally liable and have young, undeveloped brains to be able to handle their differences. We as adults need to at least try to deal with our disappointment, feelings that the child is doing this just to make us crazy, and other stuff by pouring our emotions into positives, if we can (it's NOT easy). Anger can lead to physical or verbal abuse and that doesn't help anyone. The child probably is more upset about his behavior and inability to act normal than we are. And most likely the child feels as if nobody on earth understands him. Sometimes "bad" beahvior is a cry for help. I was one of those children. Although I had terrible tantrums that made my mother feel I was being a spoiled brat, I actually couldn't control myself and, afterward, would sit in my bedroom by myself thinking of dying so that my loved ones wouldn't have to deal with me. I would promise myself I'd never do it again, but I knew I couldn't keep the promise because the anger controlled me, not the other way around.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to all of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 596128, member: 1550"] I think the exercise idea is EXCELLENT. I'm very high strung and have suffered from anxiety disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) all of my life. Loud noise bothers me, be it crying, screaming or a loud concert (I never did like loud concerts). Nothing helps me like hard exercise. Running is great, but any workout is good. Probably the least productive way to handle it is with anger, as if the child is deliberately making your life difficult. The children can't help it. They have brain differences and are emotionally liable and have young, undeveloped brains to be able to handle their differences. We as adults need to at least try to deal with our disappointment, feelings that the child is doing this just to make us crazy, and other stuff by pouring our emotions into positives, if we can (it's NOT easy). Anger can lead to physical or verbal abuse and that doesn't help anyone. The child probably is more upset about his behavior and inability to act normal than we are. And most likely the child feels as if nobody on earth understands him. Sometimes "bad" beahvior is a cry for help. I was one of those children. Although I had terrible tantrums that made my mother feel I was being a spoiled brat, I actually couldn't control myself and, afterward, would sit in my bedroom by myself thinking of dying so that my loved ones wouldn't have to deal with me. I would promise myself I'd never do it again, but I knew I couldn't keep the promise because the anger controlled me, not the other way around. Hugs to all of you. [/QUOTE]
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