I find myself getting so angry with my difficult child, eventhough I know that his outbursts and bad behavior are not his fault. I try so hard to stay positive and focus on giving him a lot of positive reinforcement, and only using negative consequences for major offenses. But there are days where I'm so exhausted, and feel so deprived of a "normal" life where I could enjoy and pay attention to all of my kids, where I could drop him off for a playdate without sitting on eggshells the whole time, etc, and I find myself blaming him. I know this is wrong, and I rarely let it effect how I parent him. But sometimes it does. I find myself yelling and saying some thing that I know I shouldn't say, but I have trouble stopping myself when I get to this point. How do you ladies stop yourselves? Please don't get me wrong, I don't think that I'm abusive or anything, I just know that sometimes I end up parenting in the way that I know doesn't work with our guys, but I just sometimes can't help it.