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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 369509" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I've had long term respites from the tweedles via Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Saying that, over the last year it has been "suggested" that I start to concentrate on me. I stopped the therapeutic parenting - my babies were using it against me. I began demanding respect because I deserve it as the parent. I have fought for & earned it. If kt or wm cannot treat me with the same level of respect & manners I show them then I take a time out. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">by the way, I love my time outs - in the garden, at my easel or piano. I've had to detach more since husband died than ever before. I have the same expectations - I rarely take what my little wonders do or say personally. It's not worth the emotional energy.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Am I angry - you betcha? All that time lost to treatments, hosptializations, etc when we might have been spending time as a family. The reality hit me more so since husband died ~ we were never to be the white picket fence family. My twins were hard wired differently from a very early age. I had become conditioned to a level of chaos that seems unbelievable. Yet here I am....</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Gaining a fresh perspective was through the loss of husband. The regrets are mine - not my tweedles. However, the tweedles played a huge part in my loss in many areas of my life. I don't blame them ~ it's just life circumstances & besides they are busy blaming themselves. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">A fresh perspective starts each morning - sometimes it's 15 minutes at a time. Sometimes it's one minute at a time. It's worth changing your mindset to whatever is acceptable to your beliefs or what you can handle.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 369509, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]I've had long term respites from the tweedles via Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Saying that, over the last year it has been "suggested" that I start to concentrate on me. I stopped the therapeutic parenting - my babies were using it against me. I began demanding respect because I deserve it as the parent. I have fought for & earned it. If kt or wm cannot treat me with the same level of respect & manners I show them then I take a time out. by the way, I love my time outs - in the garden, at my easel or piano. I've had to detach more since husband died than ever before. I have the same expectations - I rarely take what my little wonders do or say personally. It's not worth the emotional energy. Am I angry - you betcha? All that time lost to treatments, hosptializations, etc when we might have been spending time as a family. The reality hit me more so since husband died ~ we were never to be the white picket fence family. My twins were hard wired differently from a very early age. I had become conditioned to a level of chaos that seems unbelievable. Yet here I am.... Gaining a fresh perspective was through the loss of husband. The regrets are mine - not my tweedles. However, the tweedles played a huge part in my loss in many areas of my life. I don't blame them ~ it's just life circumstances & besides they are busy blaming themselves. A fresh perspective starts each morning - sometimes it's 15 minutes at a time. Sometimes it's one minute at a time. It's worth changing your mindset to whatever is acceptable to your beliefs or what you can handle. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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