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How do YOU stay calm in a difficult child meltdown
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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 100732"><p>I know when my difficult child is in the middle of a meltdown, she doesn't hear anything I say anyway. I could be right all day long, but she doesn't hear - or remember - any of it so it doesn't matter.</p><p></p><p>I'm lucky in that for the most part she will go to her room (after I tell her) when she's in a meltdown or rage. Sometimes I have to say it loudly, but she goes. The times that she refuses I just completely ignore her. I don't engage at all. Oh...and I really, really want to. I just remind myself that engaging her will only escalate things. She'll go from 0-60 in 2 seconds flat if I engage. Then, when she's finally out of the room, I call my mom or a friend or come here and vent, vent, vent. None of it sounds pretty at that point, either. I know a few times (at least) I've vented here and it must have sounded like I can't stand my kid. The constant verbal and emotional abuse becomes too much at times.</p><p></p><p>We become the target for our kids. It's exhausting, unfair, uncalled for and demoralizing. It's only human to hit our limit where we just can't take anymore.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 100732"] I know when my difficult child is in the middle of a meltdown, she doesn't hear anything I say anyway. I could be right all day long, but she doesn't hear - or remember - any of it so it doesn't matter. I'm lucky in that for the most part she will go to her room (after I tell her) when she's in a meltdown or rage. Sometimes I have to say it loudly, but she goes. The times that she refuses I just completely ignore her. I don't engage at all. Oh...and I really, really want to. I just remind myself that engaging her will only escalate things. She'll go from 0-60 in 2 seconds flat if I engage. Then, when she's finally out of the room, I call my mom or a friend or come here and vent, vent, vent. None of it sounds pretty at that point, either. I know a few times (at least) I've vented here and it must have sounded like I can't stand my kid. The constant verbal and emotional abuse becomes too much at times. We become the target for our kids. It's exhausting, unfair, uncalled for and demoralizing. It's only human to hit our limit where we just can't take anymore. [/QUOTE]
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