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<blockquote data-quote="Alttlgabby" data-source="post: 267511" data-attributes="member: 6786"><p>And this discussion made me realise - she sounds to me like she's gonig for a lot of comfort food. It's partly a teen thing anyway (and thankfully tey can often get away with it) but her background has thoroughly predisposed her to this. She needs to learn to understand this about herself and stop self-medicating with food NOW, while she's still young enough to re-learn, or she will have a shorter life span than she deserves.</p><p></p><p>She needs to NOT let her early life shorten her remaining years. Don't let the bad times win. But SHE nees to understand this, you can't tell her. It needs therapy, again.</p><p></p><p> </p><p>This is what we worked on in therapy last week. </p><p></p><p>Can you allow unlimited healthy food? Giving her free choice? Like the fruit bowl, or having a range of vegetable sticks and some healthy dips available. </p><p></p><p>Another important tip for her - drink plenty of water. If she is aware that she needs to control her comfort eating, try to remind her to have a drink of water (or similar non-sugary watery drink, such as lo-cal drink) BEFORE she eats something. Drink, then wait five minutes. She may find she ewasn't hungry after all, but thirsty.</p><p></p><p>Good suggestion. </p><p>As far as cooking goes, I think I would allow her help, but actually *cooking* might be a disaster. I don't know. I could try it. difficult child 1 is 14 but is more like an 8 year old in so many ways. Her 13 yr old sister, difficult child 2, is so much more mature than she is and has tended to *take care* and tell her older sister what she needs to do on a daily basis. We are trying to get older difficult child 2 to get away from that and allow her sister to be a bit more independent. We are getting there, and the only thing I can do is give her praise and encourage her. I think she is still coming out of her *shell*, so to speak. She is so much like a butterfly coming out of a cacoon. For most of her life, she was marked as Mentally Retarded. She came here with us and she is no longer Mentally Retarded, and is now termed as Learning Disabled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alttlgabby, post: 267511, member: 6786"] And this discussion made me realise - she sounds to me like she's gonig for a lot of comfort food. It's partly a teen thing anyway (and thankfully tey can often get away with it) but her background has thoroughly predisposed her to this. She needs to learn to understand this about herself and stop self-medicating with food NOW, while she's still young enough to re-learn, or she will have a shorter life span than she deserves. She needs to NOT let her early life shorten her remaining years. Don't let the bad times win. But SHE nees to understand this, you can't tell her. It needs therapy, again. This is what we worked on in therapy last week. Can you allow unlimited healthy food? Giving her free choice? Like the fruit bowl, or having a range of vegetable sticks and some healthy dips available. Another important tip for her - drink plenty of water. If she is aware that she needs to control her comfort eating, try to remind her to have a drink of water (or similar non-sugary watery drink, such as lo-cal drink) BEFORE she eats something. Drink, then wait five minutes. She may find she ewasn't hungry after all, but thirsty. Good suggestion. As far as cooking goes, I think I would allow her help, but actually *cooking* might be a disaster. I don't know. I could try it. difficult child 1 is 14 but is more like an 8 year old in so many ways. Her 13 yr old sister, difficult child 2, is so much more mature than she is and has tended to *take care* and tell her older sister what she needs to do on a daily basis. We are trying to get older difficult child 2 to get away from that and allow her sister to be a bit more independent. We are getting there, and the only thing I can do is give her praise and encourage her. I think she is still coming out of her *shell*, so to speak. She is so much like a butterfly coming out of a cacoon. For most of her life, she was marked as Mentally Retarded. She came here with us and she is no longer Mentally Retarded, and is now termed as Learning Disabled. [/QUOTE]
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