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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739777" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Thank you all for your suggestions! I haven't given up, and he seems to be doing his part to try and find options. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Perhaps. But I have called a few directly, and there are waiting lists. They seem to cater to court-ordered cases first, and if they have room left over it's first come, first serve. I'll try some of the church-related ones. Our area seems to have had a huge explosion in addicts, without much increase in the availability of services. Courts and hospitals are overwhelmed. It's really sad. They've even had to create temporary morgue space to keep up with all the overdoses. Meth, heroin, and opioids seem to be destroying a huge section of the population around here. That's where all the focus is right now. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That's what I've suggested to him. He's tried a couple and been turned down. We'll keep trying. And thank you from one cat lady to another! </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Probably a good idea. Farther away might be a mixed blessing - it would get him away from old friends and habits here, but also from any potential family support. I would worry about not being able to get to him if things go badly. But it's worth trying! </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Zoning laws around here put them pretty far out from the city where he is, and not in areas where there are jobs. He doesn't have transportation right now, so he's probably better off staying in the city where at least there is some level of bus service. Good thought, though. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, we're already burned through those options over the years. I'm not going to beg someone else to do something I'm not willing to do for him myself at this point. I think family he tends to take advantage of -- e.g., take longer to get a job, miss rent, not keep up with responsibilities around the house, not get out when agreed upon. Leading to major battles eventually when whoever he's staying with has had enough. I wish that would work, but at this point I know it won't. He needs to be somewhere where he knows it is a business-only arrangement and he has to hold up his end or he's back on the street again.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is probably the most likely option in our area. There are plenty of those around. It's dicey - as you say, no real tenants rights, and he's had some bad experiences with these in the past. I've been looking at these on Craigslist and sending him some options to check and he's working whatever networks he's established over the years. But this is a cheap option and like you say less fussy about background checks. He's looking for a cheap 6-month arrangement that would get him through the winter months and give him time to save up for his next move. I have a feeling it will be a friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend kind of arrangement, which makes me a bit nervous as it doesn't get him fully away from the people he uses with. (Point in favor of Smithmom's suggestion for looking further afield there..) But I don't have a lot of other options in the area to suggest to him at the moment. </p><p></p><p>I've told him my help this time is a one time offer - if he messes up whatever arrangement we come up with, either by not keeping a job or getting kicked out for other reasons, he's truly on his own at that point. He seems to be on board. We'll see. But either way, at least I know I've done my part to give him a decent shot at this. After that, it's up to him. </p><p></p><p>I'm really hoping he'll have something figured out by the end of the week. Wish us luck! And thanks again - some great ideas.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739777, member: 23349"] Thank you all for your suggestions! I haven't given up, and he seems to be doing his part to try and find options. Perhaps. But I have called a few directly, and there are waiting lists. They seem to cater to court-ordered cases first, and if they have room left over it's first come, first serve. I'll try some of the church-related ones. Our area seems to have had a huge explosion in addicts, without much increase in the availability of services. Courts and hospitals are overwhelmed. It's really sad. They've even had to create temporary morgue space to keep up with all the overdoses. Meth, heroin, and opioids seem to be destroying a huge section of the population around here. That's where all the focus is right now. That's what I've suggested to him. He's tried a couple and been turned down. We'll keep trying. And thank you from one cat lady to another! Probably a good idea. Farther away might be a mixed blessing - it would get him away from old friends and habits here, but also from any potential family support. I would worry about not being able to get to him if things go badly. But it's worth trying! Zoning laws around here put them pretty far out from the city where he is, and not in areas where there are jobs. He doesn't have transportation right now, so he's probably better off staying in the city where at least there is some level of bus service. Good thought, though. Unfortunately, we're already burned through those options over the years. I'm not going to beg someone else to do something I'm not willing to do for him myself at this point. I think family he tends to take advantage of -- e.g., take longer to get a job, miss rent, not keep up with responsibilities around the house, not get out when agreed upon. Leading to major battles eventually when whoever he's staying with has had enough. I wish that would work, but at this point I know it won't. He needs to be somewhere where he knows it is a business-only arrangement and he has to hold up his end or he's back on the street again. This is probably the most likely option in our area. There are plenty of those around. It's dicey - as you say, no real tenants rights, and he's had some bad experiences with these in the past. I've been looking at these on Craigslist and sending him some options to check and he's working whatever networks he's established over the years. But this is a cheap option and like you say less fussy about background checks. He's looking for a cheap 6-month arrangement that would get him through the winter months and give him time to save up for his next move. I have a feeling it will be a friend-of-a-friend-of-a-friend kind of arrangement, which makes me a bit nervous as it doesn't get him fully away from the people he uses with. (Point in favor of Smithmom's suggestion for looking further afield there..) But I don't have a lot of other options in the area to suggest to him at the moment. I've told him my help this time is a one time offer - if he messes up whatever arrangement we come up with, either by not keeping a job or getting kicked out for other reasons, he's truly on his own at that point. He seems to be on board. We'll see. But either way, at least I know I've done my part to give him a decent shot at this. After that, it's up to him. I'm really hoping he'll have something figured out by the end of the week. Wish us luck! And thanks again - some great ideas. [/QUOTE]
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