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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 434011" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>Like you said, it is always hard to sort through what's typical for their age and what's not, but what you describe seems not really alarming to me (specially if the childminder assures you he has a good time once you're gone). Maybe try to make it short and sweet. A little good bye routine and if you have set your mind that he needs to go (whatever your reason is), then don't give him to his crying. Otherwise, it really only teach him to cry long enough and hard enough. What would be worrysome to me is if can't stop crying for an hour or more once you're gone... maybe, ask the childminder to time the crying and then report to you. That's what I did when my boys started daycare. Then YOU can decide where you draw the line of normalcy. Isn't it hard not to over-analyze everything with a difficult child?! At one point, everything looks suspicious. And try to talk to him as of why he has to go, even if it is "just" for you to have some time for yourself. It is a very valid reason, explain maybe that you need that time to think about things, unwind and that helps you be a better mommy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 434011, member: 11847"] Like you said, it is always hard to sort through what's typical for their age and what's not, but what you describe seems not really alarming to me (specially if the childminder assures you he has a good time once you're gone). Maybe try to make it short and sweet. A little good bye routine and if you have set your mind that he needs to go (whatever your reason is), then don't give him to his crying. Otherwise, it really only teach him to cry long enough and hard enough. What would be worrysome to me is if can't stop crying for an hour or more once you're gone... maybe, ask the childminder to time the crying and then report to you. That's what I did when my boys started daycare. Then YOU can decide where you draw the line of normalcy. Isn't it hard not to over-analyze everything with a difficult child?! At one point, everything looks suspicious. And try to talk to him as of why he has to go, even if it is "just" for you to have some time for yourself. It is a very valid reason, explain maybe that you need that time to think about things, unwind and that helps you be a better mommy. [/QUOTE]
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