That vexed question again - how "normal" is it? Not that the label of normalcy really changes anything but it is interesting to know... So, how normal is it that my son is going through a period where he doesn't want to go to any childminder, but wants to stay with me all the time? School he always goes to VERY happily (hope that isn't famous last words) but anything other than that... He doesn't want to go to one childminder but I figured that was because she is overly harsh and punitive. But now he doesn't want to go to the other one either - and she is very "cuddly" and maternal. He clings on to me and says he just wants to stay at home, with me... The issue arises when I have work, but also when I have appointments or, simply, when I need time away from him to see friends or whatever. And I do need this time "away". Today there is no school and I had planned for him to go to the "cuddly" childminder. J has mounted a campaign of tears, clinging on to me in a very plaintive way (that almost has me giving in - but I am not going to) saying he wants to stay with me that of course makes me feel guilty about taking him... Despite all the tears and protests, I know when I get him there (if I get him there ), he will have a nice time and play with the other kids. But is this period of "clinging" and wanting to stay with me typical?