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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 239866" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>We saw as a family the therapist once a week. That same week Dude would go with either me or DF taking him. 45 minutes of the hour was dedicated to Dude that last 15 minutes was our "brainstorm" over JUST Dude issues. </p><p> </p><p>Dude has been attending therapy for nearly 11 years once a week AND for family therapy we did for 5 years 1x a week. That has now ceased. </p><p> </p><p>I also in the middle of all that therapy went for myself for 5 years 1x a week to work on my own issues of PTSD from abuse in my marriage and to figure out why I made the poor choices I did in my life, to gain self esteem as a person NOT a parent (those thoughts were re-directed to family therapy) </p><p> </p><p>I'm therapied out after 11 years....I'm much better now (laughing inside my head) and I learned valuable skills in all three therapy sessions that I still put in motion today. I learned coping skills, I learned how to fight fair. I learned how to be a better parent and NOT my sons best friend. I can't be that. I'm his Mom. There were times for YEARS that he hated me and I mean seething, screaming, hate. Now? It's much better. I learned how and where to draw the line in the sand with my own boundaries and it helped me communicate to the rest of the world. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p><p> </p><p>Oh and FYI - there were SEVERAL AND MANY times Dude would sit in a chair or hide under the bed screaming - I AM NOT GOING TO THERAPY - but you know what? WE MADE HIM GO. I'm sure there is a larger argument there with other parents about that and have been discussions on the board about it, but we forced him to go. We made him go but didn't FORCE him to speak in therapy. Sometimes he sat in the chair the entire time and just listened to the doctor talk. Sometimes he just played checkers or UNO. (the therapist told us those talks were seed planting events) and the checkers and UNO? Communication and self-confidence builders (Dude ALWAYS won) so in a sense he felt in his childlike mind that he BEAT the therapist. lol. THE MOST important thing to us was that WE established a pattern for him to feel he NEEDED to go - because well, Dude isn't your average difficult child - he's pretty out there and he really NEEDED and still NEEDS the therapy. Recently he stopped going and sought it out on his own terms to help him work things out. - THAT told me that forcing him to go many times paid off for us --because now he CAN tell a judge or a caseworker - I'm 18 and I do go to therapy - that SCREAMS I want help to the average lay person in my humble opinion. AND how could it hurt? </p><p> </p><p>Just my .4 cents worth. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 239866, member: 4964"] We saw as a family the therapist once a week. That same week Dude would go with either me or DF taking him. 45 minutes of the hour was dedicated to Dude that last 15 minutes was our "brainstorm" over JUST Dude issues. Dude has been attending therapy for nearly 11 years once a week AND for family therapy we did for 5 years 1x a week. That has now ceased. I also in the middle of all that therapy went for myself for 5 years 1x a week to work on my own issues of PTSD from abuse in my marriage and to figure out why I made the poor choices I did in my life, to gain self esteem as a person NOT a parent (those thoughts were re-directed to family therapy) I'm therapied out after 11 years....I'm much better now (laughing inside my head) and I learned valuable skills in all three therapy sessions that I still put in motion today. I learned coping skills, I learned how to fight fair. I learned how to be a better parent and NOT my sons best friend. I can't be that. I'm his Mom. There were times for YEARS that he hated me and I mean seething, screaming, hate. Now? It's much better. I learned how and where to draw the line in the sand with my own boundaries and it helped me communicate to the rest of the world. Hugs Star Oh and FYI - there were SEVERAL AND MANY times Dude would sit in a chair or hide under the bed screaming - I AM NOT GOING TO THERAPY - but you know what? WE MADE HIM GO. I'm sure there is a larger argument there with other parents about that and have been discussions on the board about it, but we forced him to go. We made him go but didn't FORCE him to speak in therapy. Sometimes he sat in the chair the entire time and just listened to the doctor talk. Sometimes he just played checkers or UNO. (the therapist told us those talks were seed planting events) and the checkers and UNO? Communication and self-confidence builders (Dude ALWAYS won) so in a sense he felt in his childlike mind that he BEAT the therapist. lol. THE MOST important thing to us was that WE established a pattern for him to feel he NEEDED to go - because well, Dude isn't your average difficult child - he's pretty out there and he really NEEDED and still NEEDS the therapy. Recently he stopped going and sought it out on his own terms to help him work things out. - THAT told me that forcing him to go many times paid off for us --because now he CAN tell a judge or a caseworker - I'm 18 and I do go to therapy - that SCREAMS I want help to the average lay person in my humble opinion. AND how could it hurt? Just my .4 cents worth. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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