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how often do you talk to your difficult "child" now adult?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 737866" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I wonder if you were to go back to the SS office now and explain that he has been homeless due to not being able to pay for his rent etc. no forethought etc. No cause and effect reasoning. I’m not sure if you can mention spending money on marijuana instead of rent. Maybe. Certainly you can say that his mental illness is not allowing him to plan for life safety needs. Ideally, you would have a letter in your hand backing this up by any of his most recent doctors. Our dayghter’s Psychiatrist wrote a letter of her concerns about these things. in my humble opinion, with our daughter it is a life safety issue. Your state and/or SS Office might have good intentions, but it doesn’t sound like they are facing the dire reality here.</p><p></p><p>It’s all very frustrating. Being the payee in my humble opinion is better than the alternative. But it is a big responsibility and since she is like a child in that regard, if she has a small amount of money to spend, she wants to spend it ten x over and gets mad at us when we explain that this is mathematically impossible.</p><p>Our daughter is bright with a high iq. Yet, doesn’t seem to understand this basic concept. And struggles deeply with cause and effect reasoning, planning, reality, impulse control and taking responsibility for her actions.</p><p></p><p>We don’t have drugs as an issue. I’m so grateful. Drugs, incl marijuana, make things so much worse. Kills motivation in my book. </p><p></p><p>Also, in my humble opinion, mental illness combined with adoption often means something very difficult. Huge. Disturbing. Complicated. I’ve seen it repeatedly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 737866, member: 4152"] I wonder if you were to go back to the SS office now and explain that he has been homeless due to not being able to pay for his rent etc. no forethought etc. No cause and effect reasoning. I’m not sure if you can mention spending money on marijuana instead of rent. Maybe. Certainly you can say that his mental illness is not allowing him to plan for life safety needs. Ideally, you would have a letter in your hand backing this up by any of his most recent doctors. Our dayghter’s Psychiatrist wrote a letter of her concerns about these things. in my humble opinion, with our daughter it is a life safety issue. Your state and/or SS Office might have good intentions, but it doesn’t sound like they are facing the dire reality here. It’s all very frustrating. Being the payee in my humble opinion is better than the alternative. But it is a big responsibility and since she is like a child in that regard, if she has a small amount of money to spend, she wants to spend it ten x over and gets mad at us when we explain that this is mathematically impossible. Our daughter is bright with a high iq. Yet, doesn’t seem to understand this basic concept. And struggles deeply with cause and effect reasoning, planning, reality, impulse control and taking responsibility for her actions. We don’t have drugs as an issue. I’m so grateful. Drugs, incl marijuana, make things so much worse. Kills motivation in my book. Also, in my humble opinion, mental illness combined with adoption often means something very difficult. Huge. Disturbing. Complicated. I’ve seen it repeatedly. [/QUOTE]
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