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how often do you talk to your difficult "child" now adult?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 737894" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Oh. Only now do I see this is an old thread. Thank you for your support, ladies. I do wish pigless would check-in. Glad to hear the updates about your kids. Lil and nomad.</p><p></p><p>Lil. About son's fiance status.</p><p></p><p>I do believe if mother has a green card the daughter more than likely has one. From what I have seen a family endeavors to change status as a unit and they will prioritize the husband, the breadwinner, and the children, before the wife. The mother would never in my experience left her kids out to dry so to speak.</p><p></p><p>For example. M's sister has a green card. Her husband and all her five children are naturalized citizens. They mortgaged the house to get legal help to secure this. But she is still only a resident, with a green card. M thinks they were nuts to do this by the way.</p><p></p><p>Worst case when your son marries her they can get an attorney and seek to adjust status this way. M and I spoke to an immigration attorney at one point who was encouraging. We never married though.</p><p></p><p>(Although I do believe she is a legal resident already. But her reply does perplex me.)</p><p></p><p>If it was me I would ask her outright. I would say something like this.</p><p></p><p>You know I am an attorney and I worry about these things. Not because it would affect how I feel about you. But the reverse. I love you and want you safe and to help you be safe. By knowing the reality and dealing with it. So. Let us talk.</p><p></p><p>Now. M would be mad at me for being so direct. But I would do it anyway.</p><p></p><p>But. I like how girls dad handled your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 737894, member: 18958"] Oh. Only now do I see this is an old thread. Thank you for your support, ladies. I do wish pigless would check-in. Glad to hear the updates about your kids. Lil and nomad. Lil. About son's fiance status. I do believe if mother has a green card the daughter more than likely has one. From what I have seen a family endeavors to change status as a unit and they will prioritize the husband, the breadwinner, and the children, before the wife. The mother would never in my experience left her kids out to dry so to speak. For example. M's sister has a green card. Her husband and all her five children are naturalized citizens. They mortgaged the house to get legal help to secure this. But she is still only a resident, with a green card. M thinks they were nuts to do this by the way. Worst case when your son marries her they can get an attorney and seek to adjust status this way. M and I spoke to an immigration attorney at one point who was encouraging. We never married though. (Although I do believe she is a legal resident already. But her reply does perplex me.) If it was me I would ask her outright. I would say something like this. You know I am an attorney and I worry about these things. Not because it would affect how I feel about you. But the reverse. I love you and want you safe and to help you be safe. By knowing the reality and dealing with it. So. Let us talk. Now. M would be mad at me for being so direct. But I would do it anyway. But. I like how girls dad handled your son. [/QUOTE]
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