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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 114694" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>With all due respect - <em>I get the sense that you very much think you know what's best for him.</em> You were adamant that he should not go live with bio dad. You were angry that they had found a sponsor, found a job, were providing him a roof over his head. You were quite angry that they were enabling him. You were sure he couldn't come back and live with you. </p><p></p><p>I agree with the others that the letter was a violation of healthy boundaries. </p><p></p><p>Unless he comes to you for advise - try really hard not to offer it. Unless his parole officer, or therapist calls asking your advise - try really hard not to offer it. Unless biodad calls and asks your opinion upon his release - try really hard not to offer it.</p><p></p><p>Step one of the 12 step process toward sobriety, strength and serenity: We admitted we were powerless over drugs and other peoples lives that our lives had become unmanageable.</p><p></p><p>You are powerless mom. Over him. Over his choices. Over his drug abuse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 114694, member: 1545"] With all due respect - [I]I get the sense that you very much think you know what's best for him.[/I] You were adamant that he should not go live with bio dad. You were angry that they had found a sponsor, found a job, were providing him a roof over his head. You were quite angry that they were enabling him. You were sure he couldn't come back and live with you. I agree with the others that the letter was a violation of healthy boundaries. Unless he comes to you for advise - try really hard not to offer it. Unless his parole officer, or therapist calls asking your advise - try really hard not to offer it. Unless biodad calls and asks your opinion upon his release - try really hard not to offer it. Step one of the 12 step process toward sobriety, strength and serenity: We admitted we were powerless over drugs and other peoples lives that our lives had become unmanageable. You are powerless mom. Over him. Over his choices. Over his drug abuse. [/QUOTE]
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