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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 617008" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Just wanted you to know I read your post. I know you feel as if you are in a dark place, and you are.................<u>but</u>, you also sound as if somewhere inside you've resolved an important issue. Acceptance of who are kids really are and recognizing this is likely to simply be the way it is, is a large step in the right direction and gives us the fuel we need to carry us through this mess. </p><p></p><p> It is good to not trust your daughter, she has proven to be untrustworthy. I believe WE change and then we change the way we respond to our kids and that is when everything changes. WE make the changes, not them. For a long time we WAIT for them to change, but there comes a point where we finally recognize the utter futility in that..............and then we change. You're at that point now.</p><p></p><p>You are developing a plan. You are seeking professional help. You are looking at the facts with a clearer head now...........even though the journey continues, taking action each step of the way will get you to your final destination..........detachment and acceptance for what is. Once there, YOUR life gets better. Each step of the way, we make choices and the choices lead us to a new place. You may be at the beginning, as you mentioned, but you are ON THE PATH now. </p><p></p><p>Hang tough. Keep seeing the truth. Keep your eyes opened. Do your research. Keep very well supported along the way. One step in front of the other, one day at a time............you'll do it and you'll find peace too. Make that your goal, peace of mind and acceptance of what is............those were my goals. And.............we're here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 617008, member: 13542"] Just wanted you to know I read your post. I know you feel as if you are in a dark place, and you are.................[U]but[/U], you also sound as if somewhere inside you've resolved an important issue. Acceptance of who are kids really are and recognizing this is likely to simply be the way it is, is a large step in the right direction and gives us the fuel we need to carry us through this mess. It is good to not trust your daughter, she has proven to be untrustworthy. I believe WE change and then we change the way we respond to our kids and that is when everything changes. WE make the changes, not them. For a long time we WAIT for them to change, but there comes a point where we finally recognize the utter futility in that..............and then we change. You're at that point now. You are developing a plan. You are seeking professional help. You are looking at the facts with a clearer head now...........even though the journey continues, taking action each step of the way will get you to your final destination..........detachment and acceptance for what is. Once there, YOUR life gets better. Each step of the way, we make choices and the choices lead us to a new place. You may be at the beginning, as you mentioned, but you are ON THE PATH now. Hang tough. Keep seeing the truth. Keep your eyes opened. Do your research. Keep very well supported along the way. One step in front of the other, one day at a time............you'll do it and you'll find peace too. Make that your goal, peace of mind and acceptance of what is............those were my goals. And.............we're here for you. [/QUOTE]
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