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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 392428" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>I have been trying to give my family information about my daughter's illness for 3 years now, hoping they would be understanding and not judgemental. I thought they were supportive. Recently, though, my daughter went to stay with my parents and they were judgemental and not kind to her. Normally, when they are around, she puts on her happy face and looks normal enough. She was there for so long that she didn't do that this time.</p><p></p><p>My mother did try to tell me where she thought I was doing the wrong thing and I did tell her she didn't know enough to make those judgements. I am still struggling with the pressing need to convince them that she is really sick when I think I really need to work on not letting their opinion matter to me. At this point, I don't think there is much hope of getting them to understand. I don't think people can understand who don't live it.</p><p></p><p>So, I don't really have an answer to help you, but you are not alone in this. I am going to go back to our long-time, sporadic therapist for help in sorting this out. Maybe counseling would help you, too.</p><p></p><p>My daughter was anxious and not wanting to be alone at one point. We did CBT/ERP for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) for her and that has gone away. You could work on this on your own, by leaving Manster alone in the house while you left to go outside for a while and then increase his ability to cope by increasing the time and distance you were gone, gradually. A great book that describes this technique is "What to Do When Your Child Has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)" by Aureen Pinto Wagner.</p><p></p><p>I could never feel good about leaving her when I knew she was going to get herself so worked up with anxiety if I was gone. Helping her to manage it in shorter periods of time felt more like the right thing to do to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 392428, member: 1792"] I have been trying to give my family information about my daughter's illness for 3 years now, hoping they would be understanding and not judgemental. I thought they were supportive. Recently, though, my daughter went to stay with my parents and they were judgemental and not kind to her. Normally, when they are around, she puts on her happy face and looks normal enough. She was there for so long that she didn't do that this time. My mother did try to tell me where she thought I was doing the wrong thing and I did tell her she didn't know enough to make those judgements. I am still struggling with the pressing need to convince them that she is really sick when I think I really need to work on not letting their opinion matter to me. At this point, I don't think there is much hope of getting them to understand. I don't think people can understand who don't live it. So, I don't really have an answer to help you, but you are not alone in this. I am going to go back to our long-time, sporadic therapist for help in sorting this out. Maybe counseling would help you, too. My daughter was anxious and not wanting to be alone at one point. We did CBT/ERP for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) for her and that has gone away. You could work on this on your own, by leaving Manster alone in the house while you left to go outside for a while and then increase his ability to cope by increasing the time and distance you were gone, gradually. A great book that describes this technique is "What to Do When Your Child Has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)" by Aureen Pinto Wagner. I could never feel good about leaving her when I knew she was going to get herself so worked up with anxiety if I was gone. Helping her to manage it in shorter periods of time felt more like the right thing to do to me. [/QUOTE]
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