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How to get my 17 year old out of my home quickly in california
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 747812" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>If he is hurting all of you this way, go to a Domestic Violence (DV) Center and ask for help. Kids abusing parents IS DV! Kids abusing other kids in their family IS DV! Try insisting the cops ARREST your son for his violence the next time he hits you. They probably won't keep him for long, but if you INSIST that he is a danger (especially if there are marks on you and you didn't hit or try to hurt him), they are probably required to arrest him. I went through this years ago with my son. He went to a youth shelter for a few days. If this gets in front of a judge, tell the judge that he needs services, but you are not able to tolerate being beaten because he is high or mad any longer. If nothing else, it gets him closer to our largest mental health system - the jail/prison complex. But he CAN get help there if he wants it. At 17 (or really any age) you can't help him get better unless HE wants it. You wanting it more than he does will accomplish nothing.</p><p></p><p>Keep a record of the name, badge number, date and reason why each officer tells you that he cannot help you. Then go to the police chief's office and ask him why the officers keep telling you this. You might have to be prepared to spend all day waiting to see the police chief. Take a book, music and headphones, snacks, etc.... and just prepare to wait all day. If you take the kids, they might see you faster, lol. Also, let the secretary/assistant/gatekeeper know WHY you are there. Often they are very powerful and can get the head honcho to see you. If you are in a huge city, go to the local precinct first, then to the office of whomever is their boss. It will be tedious, but it might bring a solution faster. No matter what, keep that record of names, badge numbers, date and reason why with you. Don't give the only copy to the police.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 747812, member: 1233"] If he is hurting all of you this way, go to a Domestic Violence (DV) Center and ask for help. Kids abusing parents IS DV! Kids abusing other kids in their family IS DV! Try insisting the cops ARREST your son for his violence the next time he hits you. They probably won't keep him for long, but if you INSIST that he is a danger (especially if there are marks on you and you didn't hit or try to hurt him), they are probably required to arrest him. I went through this years ago with my son. He went to a youth shelter for a few days. If this gets in front of a judge, tell the judge that he needs services, but you are not able to tolerate being beaten because he is high or mad any longer. If nothing else, it gets him closer to our largest mental health system - the jail/prison complex. But he CAN get help there if he wants it. At 17 (or really any age) you can't help him get better unless HE wants it. You wanting it more than he does will accomplish nothing. Keep a record of the name, badge number, date and reason why each officer tells you that he cannot help you. Then go to the police chief's office and ask him why the officers keep telling you this. You might have to be prepared to spend all day waiting to see the police chief. Take a book, music and headphones, snacks, etc.... and just prepare to wait all day. If you take the kids, they might see you faster, lol. Also, let the secretary/assistant/gatekeeper know WHY you are there. Often they are very powerful and can get the head honcho to see you. If you are in a huge city, go to the local precinct first, then to the office of whomever is their boss. It will be tedious, but it might bring a solution faster. No matter what, keep that record of names, badge numbers, date and reason why with you. Don't give the only copy to the police. [/QUOTE]
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