I see all these battles you all have with your older kids. We're having the same battle with my 6 year old. Right now the only way I can get her to do any work is to sit right next to her and prompt her for each question, and then maybe, like 20% of the time she'll do some work. She is not a hyperactive kid, but when it's homework time she can not sit still. I'm usually not super bothered by it as long as she's doing something. When she's fidgeting around and not doing anything at all, then I get upset and don't want to help her at all. I do try to change the subject and move onto another paper but she stays unfocused. I want husband to get her to do it before I come home from work, but that *never* happens. I can usually only allot about 30 to her homework time each night, after dinner. Her teacher says the kids shouldn't do more than about 15 min max per night, but I can't even get her to spend a few minutes in a row really doing anything. She spends extra time with one of her aides on homework between husband dropping me off for work and when her school starts. Do I "detach" (as I've seen so often here) from helping her and let her fail? Do I make her sit there for 30 min each night and let her work on it on her own? Or have husband make her do this when she comes home from school? Or do I keep doing what I'm doing, sit with her each night, prompt her for each question until she gets something done? I know there is something that I'm not doing but should (or adversely shouldn't be doing). I can not get her to do her homework and I'm tired of pushing her so hard when she just fights back. And of course this is after I've worked all day myself. husband hates to help her for the same reasons I'm complaining, but as he's given up, I can't. It's beyond frustrating to have to bug him to help her (which is it's own other issue). So, how do you get a kid like ours to do homework in their early school years?