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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 617673"><p>I don't know what the laws are in your state...</p><p></p><p>I know a few people who were in bad relationships when they became pregnant - a girlfriend who had a baby her senior year of HS, a friend of the family who was in an abusive marriage and had filed for divorce, a friend of h's and his wife was in love with another man but pregnant with the h's friend's baby (and her parent's hated h's friend) ...</p><p></p><p>In both cases where they were married - the child is automatically the spouse's child. My HS girlfriend was not married, so that wasn't a concern. Long story short, these were all women from strong families. The fathers of the women presented the baby's fathers with legal documents that voluntarily terminated their parental rights which had the added benefit of removing any paternal responsibility for child support. So a trade off. (Thinking back; I wouldn't be surprised if 1 or all grandpas slipped baby daddy a cash incentive as well.)</p><p></p><p>In all cases, it was a blessing. I've lost track of my HS girlfriend since around 1992 - but I am pretty sure that her son's father never contacted her or their son. The friend of the family remarried when her child was a toddler and the new husband adopted her son. H's friend never saw his child beyond the birth and I don't think he has many regrets. He too remarried and had a child with his wife; and I think his ex wife married her new love and her h adopted the baby.</p><p></p><p>And should sperm donor be worthy of being a father to this child someday - that would still be up to your daughter. The document would protect her and the baby from sperm donor exercising or insisting upon his parental rights against her wishes. The trade off is that the sperm donor won't have any responsibility to pay child support - but frankly I think it's doubtful that he will.</p><p></p><p>HTH - and I'd speak to a family attorney.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 617673"] I don't know what the laws are in your state... I know a few people who were in bad relationships when they became pregnant - a girlfriend who had a baby her senior year of HS, a friend of the family who was in an abusive marriage and had filed for divorce, a friend of h's and his wife was in love with another man but pregnant with the h's friend's baby (and her parent's hated h's friend) ... In both cases where they were married - the child is automatically the spouse's child. My HS girlfriend was not married, so that wasn't a concern. Long story short, these were all women from strong families. The fathers of the women presented the baby's fathers with legal documents that voluntarily terminated their parental rights which had the added benefit of removing any paternal responsibility for child support. So a trade off. (Thinking back; I wouldn't be surprised if 1 or all grandpas slipped baby daddy a cash incentive as well.) In all cases, it was a blessing. I've lost track of my HS girlfriend since around 1992 - but I am pretty sure that her son's father never contacted her or their son. The friend of the family remarried when her child was a toddler and the new husband adopted her son. H's friend never saw his child beyond the birth and I don't think he has many regrets. He too remarried and had a child with his wife; and I think his ex wife married her new love and her h adopted the baby. And should sperm donor be worthy of being a father to this child someday - that would still be up to your daughter. The document would protect her and the baby from sperm donor exercising or insisting upon his parental rights against her wishes. The trade off is that the sperm donor won't have any responsibility to pay child support - but frankly I think it's doubtful that he will. HTH - and I'd speak to a family attorney. [/QUOTE]
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