First I agree with Sunny and Roberta. I think your difficult child may have just found another way to manipulate the system. I find it hard to believe that the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would condone his being with his old friends at all let alone this soon in his recovery program. Have you run it by them? Did they give you guidelines for his home visits?
I have to ask if you have concidered the possibility That difficult child made up the drug story... Do you have any proof that there was actually drugs there at all? Could your difficult child just be telling you this stuff so you "trust him again" AND GIVE HIM EVEN MORE FREEDOM when he is home because he is showing "responsibility"? Believe me a few weeks in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) does NOT change anybody. It takes much hard work and time. I understand you wanting to believe that you son is doing well. I understand wanting to believe that things are not as bad as they seemed. But with manipulative difficult child's a parent needs to always question what they say, what they do and why. -RM
