Last October I had to replace my furnace. It was as old as my mobile home is and just went toes up. I would've cost nearly as much to repair it as it would to get a new, efficient furnace. It cost 4 grand to replace it. I had the $$$ in savings to do it. Next thing I know there is a check for 2000 dollars in the mail My mother decided to pay half the cost without letting me in on her secret. I called her to ask her WTH? She has less coming in than I do and now way does she have a spare 2K laying around. I figured it was a loan and called her to tell her I was sending her a cashier's check for the money. Well, she blew her stack! Basically told me to sit down, shut up, and say "thank you". It was a gift, not a loan. I always paid my own way if we went grocery shopping so I could get some treats at the wonderful grocery store she shops at. Last time I was down visiting, we went shopping and when I tried to pay for my stuff, she bit my head off. She CANNOT afford this! It's been a ritual for years that when I come down I take her out for dinner. Not anymore. It took a bit of arguing for her to split the tab. She's 79 years old but as sharp as a tack. Physically she's frail, but mentally she's got more on the ball than I do. She's otherwise extremely careful with money. She's not running up her credit cards or otherwise spending irresponsibly. Only thing I can figure is that her marriage to my dad was no cakewalk and perhaps she is trying to make up for me being exposed to that. Any other ideas? I hate to see her spending money on me like this and I don't know why she's started doing this in the past year. I'd love to see her enjoy the time she has left, and spending $$ on me all of a sudden isn't contributing to that. She needs to spend money on herself. If she has to give money let her give it to my sister who is struggling right now. I'm sure she's helping them out as well. This just really bugs me. I've always pulled my own freight and I don't know how get her to stop doing this.