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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 622561" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>I think it is her way of showing love. She isn't physically demonstrative. My sister, who is BiPolar (BP) like am, but NT otherwise, finds me and mum "hugging" to be hilarious. She refers to it as "hugging without touching", LoL.</p><p></p><p>We sort of put our hands on each other's shoulders and LEAN at each other. husband was the only person who could hug me and then only in private. I think it's called "tactile defensiveness" but am not sure.</p><p></p><p>They didn't even know about High-Functioning Autism (HFA) and sensory processing disorder (SPD) when I was growing up so my family and I sort of flew by the seat of our pants with a lot of stuff. I was very lucky that the combination is so common in my family that there's a lot of anecdotal advise to be had. I was quickly identified a "Oh. We've got another one.", and things went from there.</p><p></p><p>Central hypotonia was fixed by pinning a folded bed sheet or blanket firmly around the torso. Helps with sitting up and has a calming effect as well.</p><p></p><p>I laugh as shortly after my nephew Matt was born my sister commented on how he could spend hours just watching the ceiling fans and was in heaven at the home stores in the fan department where there were oodles of fans to watch at the same time.</p><p></p><p>I used to zone out watching the sun through the leaves on trees or the reflections of trees on water.</p><p></p><p>Matt lined up toys. I used to love stuffing things in glass soda bottles and trying to get them back out. Mum has a photo of me at about 2 with my blanket wrap on happily stuffing onion skins into a row of pepsi bottles.</p><p></p><p>Mum is a neat freak aspie. All must be lined up and orderly or it makes her nuts. I'm a slob Aspie. Mum and I can only stay together for shorter periods of time as our different flavors of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) start to clash. There's no open conflict,we just make each other nervous after a while.</p><p></p><p>This stuff is hereditary folks, I can go back through what we know of our family background and odd ducks abound. To add to that, I have the exact same foot stimulant that my mum and her mother and brother had.</p><p></p><p>Oh well. IT all works out. I'm weird about money, too. So long as my minimal needs are met, I don't need anymore and can be generous to a fault. I've got it under control now, but between me and husband who was Aspie lite and ADD and would give someone the coat off his back (literally) if they were cold.</p><p></p><p>I can't count the number of times he came home shivering and soaked after having given his coat to a homeless person.</p><p></p><p>We finally solved this by buying a bunch of second hand coats and blankets that he could hand out to those in need. And awful lot of homeless people got Army surplus field jackets/liners and blankets.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 622561, member: 1963"] I think it is her way of showing love. She isn't physically demonstrative. My sister, who is BiPolar (BP) like am, but NT otherwise, finds me and mum "hugging" to be hilarious. She refers to it as "hugging without touching", LoL. We sort of put our hands on each other's shoulders and LEAN at each other. husband was the only person who could hug me and then only in private. I think it's called "tactile defensiveness" but am not sure. They didn't even know about High-Functioning Autism (HFA) and sensory processing disorder (SPD) when I was growing up so my family and I sort of flew by the seat of our pants with a lot of stuff. I was very lucky that the combination is so common in my family that there's a lot of anecdotal advise to be had. I was quickly identified a "Oh. We've got another one.", and things went from there. Central hypotonia was fixed by pinning a folded bed sheet or blanket firmly around the torso. Helps with sitting up and has a calming effect as well. I laugh as shortly after my nephew Matt was born my sister commented on how he could spend hours just watching the ceiling fans and was in heaven at the home stores in the fan department where there were oodles of fans to watch at the same time. I used to zone out watching the sun through the leaves on trees or the reflections of trees on water. Matt lined up toys. I used to love stuffing things in glass soda bottles and trying to get them back out. Mum has a photo of me at about 2 with my blanket wrap on happily stuffing onion skins into a row of pepsi bottles. Mum is a neat freak aspie. All must be lined up and orderly or it makes her nuts. I'm a slob Aspie. Mum and I can only stay together for shorter periods of time as our different flavors of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) start to clash. There's no open conflict,we just make each other nervous after a while. This stuff is hereditary folks, I can go back through what we know of our family background and odd ducks abound. To add to that, I have the exact same foot stimulant that my mum and her mother and brother had. Oh well. IT all works out. I'm weird about money, too. So long as my minimal needs are met, I don't need anymore and can be generous to a fault. I've got it under control now, but between me and husband who was Aspie lite and ADD and would give someone the coat off his back (literally) if they were cold. I can't count the number of times he came home shivering and soaked after having given his coat to a homeless person. We finally solved this by buying a bunch of second hand coats and blankets that he could hand out to those in need. And awful lot of homeless people got Army surplus field jackets/liners and blankets. [/QUOTE]
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