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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 549551" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Yes, for 16-year-old boys spending quality time with mom isn't in general very high in the list: 'Best ways to spend my time.' I get that, that is why I asked how to <strong>sneak </strong>some fun time together to his schedule. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/bigsmile.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":bigsmile:" title="big smile :bigsmile:" data-shortname=":bigsmile:" /> </p><p></p><p>It really doesn't help that he has a packed schedule as it is, so I can forget everything regular or big time commitments. Sports are also mostly out. We really don't have that kind of big, popular spectator sport leagues around here, where going to game would be so cool that it wouldn't matter it is with mom. We have one or two kind of spectator leagues, for other the tickets are quite cheap and easy child goes to games with friends when they have time. For the other one he can get free tickets easily and also goes with friends. And really, it is not that cool just to go to the game any more when your brother is one of the players and you know many others too. There are more irregular sporting events, that do have more cool factor and we do go as a family to many of those. But they often clash with easy child's own sport schedule and he can't come any more. For example there is one big one next weekend we have often attended, but easy child got himself selected for junior national practise tournament for the weekend, so now we have an extra ticket in our hands and will ask one of our godchildren instead.</p><p></p><p>We do cook together at times, mostly to teach him skills and that is nice at times. At times it is a chore and to be honest, he isn't that often home, when cooking should be done. Music is something I could try. While he didn't want to continue in conservatoire any more, he still does play at times to amuse himself and his taste of music is wider than he usually would admit. If you ask, he tells he likes Mac Miller and DJ Khaled like all his friends but when they are not present he does listen also many other styles of music. He did play classical guitar and he does like especially more contemporary classical guitar music and other contemporary or interdisciplinary classical music. We do have a lot of small concerts of those and there is not much dread of being seen with mommy by friends in those, so maybe I should actively check anything he could be interested of and that would not clash with his schedule and ask him to join me. I can make it out as favour for me ('it's not fun to go alone and dad always threatens to fall asleep in these') and do some small bribery (his favourite restaurant afterwards or something.) I think I may well be able to sneak one or two that kind of events to his schedule during a fall.</p><p></p><p>I also think I try to more actively invite him to have a coffee and snack with me in some café or other place when I pick him up from somewhere or bring something to him during the day. Most of time he probably will not have time or he doesn't want to, but the boy likes to eat. I'm sure I will catch him hungry enough to feel tempted to join me at times. Our kids are not allowed to drive before they are 18 and while he uses a public transportation and his bike a lot, we do also drive him to places and I could probably more actively offer to drive him instead of husband (who does most of that for him.)</p><p></p><p>Thank you for ideas. More are still welcomed!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 549551, member: 14557"] Yes, for 16-year-old boys spending quality time with mom isn't in general very high in the list: 'Best ways to spend my time.' I get that, that is why I asked how to [B]sneak [/B]some fun time together to his schedule. :bigsmile: It really doesn't help that he has a packed schedule as it is, so I can forget everything regular or big time commitments. Sports are also mostly out. We really don't have that kind of big, popular spectator sport leagues around here, where going to game would be so cool that it wouldn't matter it is with mom. We have one or two kind of spectator leagues, for other the tickets are quite cheap and easy child goes to games with friends when they have time. For the other one he can get free tickets easily and also goes with friends. And really, it is not that cool just to go to the game any more when your brother is one of the players and you know many others too. There are more irregular sporting events, that do have more cool factor and we do go as a family to many of those. But they often clash with easy child's own sport schedule and he can't come any more. For example there is one big one next weekend we have often attended, but easy child got himself selected for junior national practise tournament for the weekend, so now we have an extra ticket in our hands and will ask one of our godchildren instead. We do cook together at times, mostly to teach him skills and that is nice at times. At times it is a chore and to be honest, he isn't that often home, when cooking should be done. Music is something I could try. While he didn't want to continue in conservatoire any more, he still does play at times to amuse himself and his taste of music is wider than he usually would admit. If you ask, he tells he likes Mac Miller and DJ Khaled like all his friends but when they are not present he does listen also many other styles of music. He did play classical guitar and he does like especially more contemporary classical guitar music and other contemporary or interdisciplinary classical music. We do have a lot of small concerts of those and there is not much dread of being seen with mommy by friends in those, so maybe I should actively check anything he could be interested of and that would not clash with his schedule and ask him to join me. I can make it out as favour for me ('it's not fun to go alone and dad always threatens to fall asleep in these') and do some small bribery (his favourite restaurant afterwards or something.) I think I may well be able to sneak one or two that kind of events to his schedule during a fall. I also think I try to more actively invite him to have a coffee and snack with me in some café or other place when I pick him up from somewhere or bring something to him during the day. Most of time he probably will not have time or he doesn't want to, but the boy likes to eat. I'm sure I will catch him hungry enough to feel tempted to join me at times. Our kids are not allowed to drive before they are 18 and while he uses a public transportation and his bike a lot, we do also drive him to places and I could probably more actively offer to drive him instead of husband (who does most of that for him.) Thank you for ideas. More are still welcomed! [/QUOTE]
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