anyone have the answer to that million dollar question......?? LOL. I find myself each day complaining about the same junk. Yup as you have all come to learn i complain really well and i'm a bit of a downer as of late. yet it's how i feel truly. I complain about husband not giving me a heads up as to what the plan will be the two days he's off, his ex texts or calls in the a.m. and tells him what his kids have and where he has to run to all day long. I've asked as I should repeatedly please tell her we need more advance notice. went thru this weeks ago with him again. Yet today again it happens. My quiet night i had planned has now turned into running all night long to drop kids at different things, plays to go to, you name it. and me cancelling us picking up a couch we need i found off internet. kids their behavior difficult child especially i complain alot. i put provisions in place stay strong yet she knocks each and everyone of them down. same with-easy child. i change tone of voice, i stay strong put my boundaries in place yet still stays the same. Yes I have LOOKED UP EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION skills LOL. I am a great communicator u can imagine how verbal i am. Yet nothing i do helps or changes anything. now even my mom walking all over me. I am not in anyway a meek individual i am tough and often have to step back and calm my emotions when handling hairy situations because my nastiness will kick up. i just dont' get it overall. any ideas? what do you guys do? see anything about any of this that I dont'?? oh and difficult child is back to my throat hurts also. and cutting down her food. I'm lick WTF. I am still searching on a therapist for me. husband and i found one that we booked an appointment for after xmas because right now we simply do not have the time. I can go yet he can't get out of work for it and two nights he's around his kids are here.