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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 362960" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It really hoovers that your ex is filling their heads with this. What would difficult child do if you agreed? Told her that the medications are to help her so that she can feel love and can behave the way society wants, rather than always being angry and in trouble for her actions. My difficult child was floored when I did that. But if you think about it, you ARE wanting to medicate her so that she can behave more appropriately. NOT to stifle her feelings, but to help her manage them and to help her stop always fighting and being in trouble.</p><p></p><p>If ex says that parents who medicate their kids should be evaluated themselves, what would the kids think if you agreed to do it? You don't have to tell them all the results ny testing gives, or even tell them what a therapist says. But why not go and get an evaluation if it will help the kids understand that they need to see a therapist to help them handle their problems? You can even tell them that it is to help you deal with the stress in your life and to help you understand them better.</p><p></p><p>The results of you seeing a therapist would be confidential so ex cannot find out unless you tell the kids and they tell him. I would keep it to generalizations personally so that ex cannot put them in the middle. But it might be really helpful for you to see someone so you can deal with the gfgness of your daughter and ex.</p><p></p><p>Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 362960, member: 1233"] It really hoovers that your ex is filling their heads with this. What would difficult child do if you agreed? Told her that the medications are to help her so that she can feel love and can behave the way society wants, rather than always being angry and in trouble for her actions. My difficult child was floored when I did that. But if you think about it, you ARE wanting to medicate her so that she can behave more appropriately. NOT to stifle her feelings, but to help her manage them and to help her stop always fighting and being in trouble. If ex says that parents who medicate their kids should be evaluated themselves, what would the kids think if you agreed to do it? You don't have to tell them all the results ny testing gives, or even tell them what a therapist says. But why not go and get an evaluation if it will help the kids understand that they need to see a therapist to help them handle their problems? You can even tell them that it is to help you deal with the stress in your life and to help you understand them better. The results of you seeing a therapist would be confidential so ex cannot find out unless you tell the kids and they tell him. I would keep it to generalizations personally so that ex cannot put them in the middle. But it might be really helpful for you to see someone so you can deal with the gfgness of your daughter and ex. Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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