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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 500790" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>I have talked to many many friends with kids with autism that say stuff like that. They really do not inside of themselves understand how it makes us feel. They think it, they say it. It is not a bad thing because they really don't get it, it is all about what might make them feel happy in the moment.</p><p></p><p>I work on two fronts, we are working on developing the skills to never get to that point. Plus we avoid triggers while doing that.</p><p></p><p>I admit that lately I have told him about my visit to the police station as part of our safety plan and I made it into something it is not. I told him they have papers ready and they are not going to take him to psychiatric hospital (which he liked and was acting up to go there again) but to jail. When it is not a medication issue then you go to jail (OK, I know I lied but until he has more skills, I am talking about safety here and was desperate, talked to psychiatric about it and he said if we see a decrease it is working and if we see an increase it is not.... I see a decrease)</p><p></p><p>So, only at those times when he is acting aggressive, INCLUDING the butt pats which build to that... I tell him ok, you can't stay here if you do htat. I always have my phone and he hears the beeps so I dial 933 (but it is 911 of course) and he turns and walks out and says, ok ok ok, I am going to go calm down......</p><p></p><p></p><p>Of course I dont want it to be that way, and I am not proud of it. My goal is to get to a place where we dont have to do that and since when needed I really did (and would) call 911 it is only a bluff if he stops. I WILL call them if he is so dangerous that I fear for any reason (and sadly, a punch on the arm is not to that level to me, others would disagree but I would be calling daily and truth is for him, with his medical issues jail is not an option). so that part of the bluff will fall apart some day because he would go to a psychiatric hospital. But not the one he was at I think if he is aggressive. If he needs medication adjustment and needs to go in planned, then fine, we will go to the nice one.</p><p></p><p>No easy answers. It is not perfect, but in an emergency the 911 threat works for me for now.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 500790, member: 12886"] I have talked to many many friends with kids with autism that say stuff like that. They really do not inside of themselves understand how it makes us feel. They think it, they say it. It is not a bad thing because they really don't get it, it is all about what might make them feel happy in the moment. I work on two fronts, we are working on developing the skills to never get to that point. Plus we avoid triggers while doing that. I admit that lately I have told him about my visit to the police station as part of our safety plan and I made it into something it is not. I told him they have papers ready and they are not going to take him to psychiatric hospital (which he liked and was acting up to go there again) but to jail. When it is not a medication issue then you go to jail (OK, I know I lied but until he has more skills, I am talking about safety here and was desperate, talked to psychiatric about it and he said if we see a decrease it is working and if we see an increase it is not.... I see a decrease) So, only at those times when he is acting aggressive, INCLUDING the butt pats which build to that... I tell him ok, you can't stay here if you do htat. I always have my phone and he hears the beeps so I dial 933 (but it is 911 of course) and he turns and walks out and says, ok ok ok, I am going to go calm down...... Of course I dont want it to be that way, and I am not proud of it. My goal is to get to a place where we dont have to do that and since when needed I really did (and would) call 911 it is only a bluff if he stops. I WILL call them if he is so dangerous that I fear for any reason (and sadly, a punch on the arm is not to that level to me, others would disagree but I would be calling daily and truth is for him, with his medical issues jail is not an option). so that part of the bluff will fall apart some day because he would go to a psychiatric hospital. But not the one he was at I think if he is aggressive. If he needs medication adjustment and needs to go in planned, then fine, we will go to the nice one. No easy answers. It is not perfect, but in an emergency the 911 threat works for me for now..... [/QUOTE]
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