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How to stop enabling my herion addict son!
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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 543291" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi and welcome,</p><p>I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Hopefully, you will get good advice and consolation here.</p><p></p><p>You are trying to do the right thing for everyone in your family, and by enabling your son in the past, he is able to steal from you in more ways than one. He is also stealing your normal family relationships with your husband and other family members. I think contacting the drug therapist is a good first step. However, if your son does not take the initiative to get help immediately, then I would suggest you file charges for theft. This sounds harsh, but he must experience consequences. Standing up for what is right is the right thing to do for your entire family...even your addict son. Permitting this behavior in your home is the worst thing you can do for him - I know it sounds irrational to your mother's heart, but it's true. I think also it may benefit you, your husband and your other children to seek therapy at FA or NA or AA, or even private therapy. Your husband's statement about wishing your son would die of an OD is a clear example of the anger and stress he can no longer manage. It is a toxic situation to your whole family.</p><p></p><p>Of course you want your son to become a normal person. No addict is normal - it is not normal to put drugs ahead of everything else in one's life. The panic and sheer terror you fear can also come from fearing things will get worse before they get better. They probably will - but that is normal, too. Take care, keep checking back and post your progress/questions. Keep strong!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 543291, member: 13882"] Hi and welcome, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Hopefully, you will get good advice and consolation here. You are trying to do the right thing for everyone in your family, and by enabling your son in the past, he is able to steal from you in more ways than one. He is also stealing your normal family relationships with your husband and other family members. I think contacting the drug therapist is a good first step. However, if your son does not take the initiative to get help immediately, then I would suggest you file charges for theft. This sounds harsh, but he must experience consequences. Standing up for what is right is the right thing to do for your entire family...even your addict son. Permitting this behavior in your home is the worst thing you can do for him - I know it sounds irrational to your mother's heart, but it's true. I think also it may benefit you, your husband and your other children to seek therapy at FA or NA or AA, or even private therapy. Your husband's statement about wishing your son would die of an OD is a clear example of the anger and stress he can no longer manage. It is a toxic situation to your whole family. Of course you want your son to become a normal person. No addict is normal - it is not normal to put drugs ahead of everything else in one's life. The panic and sheer terror you fear can also come from fearing things will get worse before they get better. They probably will - but that is normal, too. Take care, keep checking back and post your progress/questions. Keep strong! [/QUOTE]
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