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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 284801" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Susan, I didn't do a thing. She did it all. She was in Illinois and I was in Wisconsin. And the LAST thing she wanted ANYTHING to do with (and she is still this way) are ANY kinds of drugs, especially stuff like Klonopin. He isn't quitting if he wants it--it's a cousin to Xanax. I take it for anxiety, however I take one pill PRN. My daughter may or may not have a mild mood disorder, but she don't like psychiatric medication and will NOT take it. She also has insomnia. The only thing she will do for it is try Melatonin and meditation. She has swung in the other direction, which is common, much like a smoker gets very anti-cigarette after he/she quits.</p><p></p><p>You can not help him in his journey. He will decide to do it himself and you will see him PURPOSELY pushing his druggie friends out of his life. He will suddenly get ambition and maybe want to go to school and he will get a job, any job. My daughter's first job after her drug use was to walk back and forth to a Subway. She eventually became the Manager and worked her tail off for almost no money at all. Her brother, who she lived with, would not drive her anywhere except when they went shopping together or to visit his extremely religious Christian friends--none of them even drank. She was grateful just to be out of the house. She got depressed too because she had no friends for a while, but she finally made a few from work and sometimes an old friend from when she'd lived in Illinois would come to Subway and she'd make plans with them. My daughter is very shy, which is partly why she got into drugs. She had to do a lot of pushing herself and it wasn't always easy. She would often call me crying about having no friends, and I was always there for her, listening. That was all I could do. Once she met her boyfriend, things improved a lot. She got a better job and her license back and her father gave her his car after he bought a new one. He lives in Illinois and he saw how hard she was trying. She has never gone back to drugland.</p><p></p><p>Susan, if your son wants to quit using, you will see signs like you see in my daughter and from Missy's son. But, just like you can't make him quit, you can't help him quit if he ever tries. He has to grow up--I was told that our drug using kids have emotional growth stunting. My J. had to kind of go from age 12 to 20 AT age 20! She has really matured in the intervening years and is closer to her age level now. It's a work in progress. But it's the person himself or herself who needs to walk that journey. We can give emotional support and suggestions (not bossy ones...lol <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" />). My daughter usually didn't take my advice, but sometimes she did! She never went to a rehab. I personally don't feel rehabs do squat unless you need to withdraw from drugs and are well ready for an extremely painful, difficult process. My daughter did all her withdrawing on her own--and she used meth.</p><p></p><p>I hope your son takes this trip one day, but he will have to take it himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 284801, member: 1550"] Susan, I didn't do a thing. She did it all. She was in Illinois and I was in Wisconsin. And the LAST thing she wanted ANYTHING to do with (and she is still this way) are ANY kinds of drugs, especially stuff like Klonopin. He isn't quitting if he wants it--it's a cousin to Xanax. I take it for anxiety, however I take one pill PRN. My daughter may or may not have a mild mood disorder, but she don't like psychiatric medication and will NOT take it. She also has insomnia. The only thing she will do for it is try Melatonin and meditation. She has swung in the other direction, which is common, much like a smoker gets very anti-cigarette after he/she quits. You can not help him in his journey. He will decide to do it himself and you will see him PURPOSELY pushing his druggie friends out of his life. He will suddenly get ambition and maybe want to go to school and he will get a job, any job. My daughter's first job after her drug use was to walk back and forth to a Subway. She eventually became the Manager and worked her tail off for almost no money at all. Her brother, who she lived with, would not drive her anywhere except when they went shopping together or to visit his extremely religious Christian friends--none of them even drank. She was grateful just to be out of the house. She got depressed too because she had no friends for a while, but she finally made a few from work and sometimes an old friend from when she'd lived in Illinois would come to Subway and she'd make plans with them. My daughter is very shy, which is partly why she got into drugs. She had to do a lot of pushing herself and it wasn't always easy. She would often call me crying about having no friends, and I was always there for her, listening. That was all I could do. Once she met her boyfriend, things improved a lot. She got a better job and her license back and her father gave her his car after he bought a new one. He lives in Illinois and he saw how hard she was trying. She has never gone back to drugland. Susan, if your son wants to quit using, you will see signs like you see in my daughter and from Missy's son. But, just like you can't make him quit, you can't help him quit if he ever tries. He has to grow up--I was told that our drug using kids have emotional growth stunting. My J. had to kind of go from age 12 to 20 AT age 20! She has really matured in the intervening years and is closer to her age level now. It's a work in progress. But it's the person himself or herself who needs to walk that journey. We can give emotional support and suggestions (not bossy ones...lol :happy:). My daughter usually didn't take my advice, but sometimes she did! She never went to a rehab. I personally don't feel rehabs do squat unless you need to withdraw from drugs and are well ready for an extremely painful, difficult process. My daughter did all her withdrawing on her own--and she used meth. I hope your son takes this trip one day, but he will have to take it himself. [/QUOTE]
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