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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 581689" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I had a roommate in college who was TOTALLY unprepared for life. Her mom and dad never really required her to do anything but get good grades, date a 'nice' boy, and look pretty. She was a disaster. At one point I told her mom flat out that not making the girl do chores was a HUGE mistake as she couldn't wash clothes, figure out what to eat on the weekends when the cafeteria was closed, or do more than heat water in a microwave. This girl couldn't even make microwave popcorn with-o three tries. </p><p></p><p>I ended up writing out a 'how to' manual for her - how to wash clothes (spraying them with deodorant does not count and the entire room reeked because she thought she could wait from mid Aug to Thanksgiving to take them home to wash. THen she took her mom's$250 french lace camisole and washed in on hot iwth bleach. It disintegrated, only the seams and some trim at the neckline came out of the wash. I included a 'how to talk to the doctor' section iwth literally what you need to do/say. Once I gave it to her, I stopped answering any question in the book. I also called my mom at least once a week to thank her for not making me helpless.</p><p></p><p>This girl didn't have addiction to stunt her growth. Your daughter does. The things you tried to teach her stopped being absorbed when the addictions took over. It is a LOT different than the way this girl was parented, where she literally never did a chore in her life - they had a live in housekeeper and a maid to do all the chores. </p><p></p><p>My point is that maybe you need to write a 'how to' guide for your daughter. one she should take EVERYWHERE that includes asking the doctor if there is a medication on the cheap rx list that would fix the problem. THere are more than a few cheap antibiotics that are strong and if you ask, often a doctor can give them to you. But you have to think to ask, which even my husband doesn't do. </p><p></p><p>It is a suggestion, and I am NOT saying that you in ANY way made difficult child helpless. You didn't, the drugs/alcohol have. But a guidebook and then making her refer to it might be a big help to her. </p><p></p><p>I am glad she has you, and you truly are a really great mom in a really tough situation. It is just an idea, a way to help her learn to cope while she still has you, Know what I mean??</p><p></p><p>As for my roomie, she left middle of the next semester with 11 infections that almost killed her and took a huge toll on her brain. She got them by swimming in a condemned lake and then not seeking treatment until her roomie called 911 because she was turning blue. OF course that is irrelevant to your daughter, thankfully.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 581689, member: 1233"] I had a roommate in college who was TOTALLY unprepared for life. Her mom and dad never really required her to do anything but get good grades, date a 'nice' boy, and look pretty. She was a disaster. At one point I told her mom flat out that not making the girl do chores was a HUGE mistake as she couldn't wash clothes, figure out what to eat on the weekends when the cafeteria was closed, or do more than heat water in a microwave. This girl couldn't even make microwave popcorn with-o three tries. I ended up writing out a 'how to' manual for her - how to wash clothes (spraying them with deodorant does not count and the entire room reeked because she thought she could wait from mid Aug to Thanksgiving to take them home to wash. THen she took her mom's$250 french lace camisole and washed in on hot iwth bleach. It disintegrated, only the seams and some trim at the neckline came out of the wash. I included a 'how to talk to the doctor' section iwth literally what you need to do/say. Once I gave it to her, I stopped answering any question in the book. I also called my mom at least once a week to thank her for not making me helpless. This girl didn't have addiction to stunt her growth. Your daughter does. The things you tried to teach her stopped being absorbed when the addictions took over. It is a LOT different than the way this girl was parented, where she literally never did a chore in her life - they had a live in housekeeper and a maid to do all the chores. My point is that maybe you need to write a 'how to' guide for your daughter. one she should take EVERYWHERE that includes asking the doctor if there is a medication on the cheap rx list that would fix the problem. THere are more than a few cheap antibiotics that are strong and if you ask, often a doctor can give them to you. But you have to think to ask, which even my husband doesn't do. It is a suggestion, and I am NOT saying that you in ANY way made difficult child helpless. You didn't, the drugs/alcohol have. But a guidebook and then making her refer to it might be a big help to her. I am glad she has you, and you truly are a really great mom in a really tough situation. It is just an idea, a way to help her learn to cope while she still has you, Know what I mean?? As for my roomie, she left middle of the next semester with 11 infections that almost killed her and took a huge toll on her brain. She got them by swimming in a condemned lake and then not seeking treatment until her roomie called 911 because she was turning blue. OF course that is irrelevant to your daughter, thankfully. [/QUOTE]
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