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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 470437" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>HI Malika,</p><p></p><p>We all face these situations. Have you read the explosive child? It is really helpful in giving one permission not to fight all battles. Also something to think about is that what looks to us like an easy task seems overwhelming to a child sometimes. If you have the gas in your tank to make a game of it, that sometimes helps. Course I was never that good as a parent.</p><p></p><p>On the rudeness etc we still have that when my son gets really upset. Consequencing has not proved to be helpful. I would at least go for remorse, someone on this board said, not enough to say sorry, you have to do sorry. So let him think about age appropriate ways to make it up to you perhaps afterwords. What you might be aiming for is to help him learn to take your perspective on what hurts you. </p><p></p><p>I think you will get further if you view rudeness etc as something he is not in control of for age, disability etc reasons. Consequencing someone with a broken leg and telling them have to walk normally is only going to make them madder. So see that as a long term project. Looking at the antecedents and figuring out how to forestall these situations will probably make both of you feel better about things. Easy to say, hard to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 470437, member: 2322"] HI Malika, We all face these situations. Have you read the explosive child? It is really helpful in giving one permission not to fight all battles. Also something to think about is that what looks to us like an easy task seems overwhelming to a child sometimes. If you have the gas in your tank to make a game of it, that sometimes helps. Course I was never that good as a parent. On the rudeness etc we still have that when my son gets really upset. Consequencing has not proved to be helpful. I would at least go for remorse, someone on this board said, not enough to say sorry, you have to do sorry. So let him think about age appropriate ways to make it up to you perhaps afterwords. What you might be aiming for is to help him learn to take your perspective on what hurts you. I think you will get further if you view rudeness etc as something he is not in control of for age, disability etc reasons. Consequencing someone with a broken leg and telling them have to walk normally is only going to make them madder. So see that as a long term project. Looking at the antecedents and figuring out how to forestall these situations will probably make both of you feel better about things. Easy to say, hard to do. [/QUOTE]
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