Malika
Well-Known Member
How would you handle this? Just interested to get different perspectives on this - not beating myself up for anyone who feels that I am
Picked J up from the "garderie" at 6.30 this evening (school finishes at 4.30 and there is a childminding service at the school until 6.30) - it is a long day for him, from 8.30 until 6.30 so I am aware he must be very tired when I pick him up, though he doesn't show it of course but is just super energised and hyperactive as ever. He asked to go out on his bike in the village - I know he is hoping to see the other little boy who lives near us, who also goes out and plays around the village in the evening - but I said no, we would spend time together. I would like to get into a routine of him just going out to play when there is no school the following day. Rumbunctious game of "cache-cache" and then we were going to play a board game. As he was getting it out he dropped the cards on the floor. When I told him to pick them up, he went into this big crying fit, rolling around on the floor and shouting that "he always had to pick things up" and that he wasn't doing anything unless I helped him. I felt on principle he should pick them up but after 5 minutes of this escalating temper tantrum, I decided that the best way out was to help him, though I really dislike doing this as it is not teaching the basic principle that what he has dropped, he should pick up... It just wasn't a battle worth fighting though. We then did this together but we ended up not playing because he was then really rude, speaking to me in that smart-alec, insulting way that I really find disrespectful and unacceptable. Not a pleasant evening, all in all.
Two questions really - what would you have done about the dropped cards and (64,000 dollars), is there any way I can work on getting him to stop this rude defiance when he feels he is losing "power" and control.... Consequences, I'm afraid, make no difference - though perhaps they would if I walked around in a suit of armour and had 10 years at my disposal. All thinking outside the box welcomed...
Picked J up from the "garderie" at 6.30 this evening (school finishes at 4.30 and there is a childminding service at the school until 6.30) - it is a long day for him, from 8.30 until 6.30 so I am aware he must be very tired when I pick him up, though he doesn't show it of course but is just super energised and hyperactive as ever. He asked to go out on his bike in the village - I know he is hoping to see the other little boy who lives near us, who also goes out and plays around the village in the evening - but I said no, we would spend time together. I would like to get into a routine of him just going out to play when there is no school the following day. Rumbunctious game of "cache-cache" and then we were going to play a board game. As he was getting it out he dropped the cards on the floor. When I told him to pick them up, he went into this big crying fit, rolling around on the floor and shouting that "he always had to pick things up" and that he wasn't doing anything unless I helped him. I felt on principle he should pick them up but after 5 minutes of this escalating temper tantrum, I decided that the best way out was to help him, though I really dislike doing this as it is not teaching the basic principle that what he has dropped, he should pick up... It just wasn't a battle worth fighting though. We then did this together but we ended up not playing because he was then really rude, speaking to me in that smart-alec, insulting way that I really find disrespectful and unacceptable. Not a pleasant evening, all in all.
Two questions really - what would you have done about the dropped cards and (64,000 dollars), is there any way I can work on getting him to stop this rude defiance when he feels he is losing "power" and control.... Consequences, I'm afraid, make no difference - though perhaps they would if I walked around in a suit of armour and had 10 years at my disposal. All thinking outside the box welcomed...