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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 470476" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>This may seem overly simplistic and won't necessarily work with a difficult child who's already into a tantrum, but I'm going to share it just in case. A trick I use with my 4 year old grandson when he doesn't want to do something is to turn it into a time contest. I say, "I'll bet you can't pick up those cards before I count to 20." Most of the time, it works.. he LOVES competition. This is how I get him to bed sometimes, too, I say, "I bet I can beat you up the stairs!" and off he goes ... racing me to get there first. It's just another way of redirecting him, and it works a lot of the time. When younger kids become defiant over a power struggle, giving them some "perceived" power (i.e., challenging them to a contest and then they get to "beat" you in it), helps somewhat. I think this only works with younger kids, though.. I doubt my grandson will buy into this when he's 8 or 9 ;-)</p><p></p><p>I don't think helping him pick the cards up was giving in to him. I think it's a fair compromise with a tired and cranky difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 470476, member: 1157"] This may seem overly simplistic and won't necessarily work with a difficult child who's already into a tantrum, but I'm going to share it just in case. A trick I use with my 4 year old grandson when he doesn't want to do something is to turn it into a time contest. I say, "I'll bet you can't pick up those cards before I count to 20." Most of the time, it works.. he LOVES competition. This is how I get him to bed sometimes, too, I say, "I bet I can beat you up the stairs!" and off he goes ... racing me to get there first. It's just another way of redirecting him, and it works a lot of the time. When younger kids become defiant over a power struggle, giving them some "perceived" power (i.e., challenging them to a contest and then they get to "beat" you in it), helps somewhat. I think this only works with younger kids, though.. I doubt my grandson will buy into this when he's 8 or 9 ;-) I don't think helping him pick the cards up was giving in to him. I think it's a fair compromise with a tired and cranky difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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